I’m a covert narcissist and working towards being a better person to myself and to others. I’ve created this podcast because after I was diagnosed with my personality disorder and have accepted the facts, I wanted to learn more about it. I’ve found dozens of books written by or for victims of narcissistic abuse, but have found almost no help for Covert Narcissists themselves. I understand why that is. Most narcissists will not acknowledge their narcissism or are willing to change. It’s also my understanding that Covert Narcissism is a somewhat recent discovery, and experts are still trying to figure out how to effectively help people diagnosed with the personality disorder. So I decided to use my insights to on the one hand give victims of narcissistic abuse an unfiltered view into my brain and maybe help them heal, but mostly to reach out to other Covert Narcissists who are trying to be less toxic.

Today's tool is probably one of the hardest. No - THE hardest. Open Conversations. You see, us covert narcissists only have open conversations for 2 reasons. Reason 1 is to play the victim. We can talk for hours about how everything in our life is awful, overdramatizing every detail, looking for sympathy. The other reason is to get the other person to open up so we can learn about their weaknesses, which we can use against them later in life. For that purpose, we carefully curate what we want to reveal.

When I say open conversations, I don’t refer to any of those 2 conversations. Listen to the podcast to find out how open conversation can help you on your journey.