My guest this week is Tribe member Brad who has struggled with his weight and his drinking.  I love his story about how he heard about Tribe Sober when he was in the chemist picking up his meds!

In this episode:-

• Brad's drinking story is tied up with his weight loss story and as we heard from the recent podcast with Adam Sheauble there is a crossover between the two addictions and how we deal with them

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My guest this week is Dr Vera Tarman who is a specialist in addiction behaviour and treatment.

Dr. Vera is internationally recognized for her education in and publications on various areas of addiction and more specifically food addiction.

She’s had her own issues with alcohol but when she stopped drinking she started eating until her weight rose to 250lbs..   it was the eating addiction that “brought her down” as she puts it…

In this episode:-

• Vera had a difficult childhood. Her mother was an alcoholic who died when Vera was just 15..and her relationship with her father was not good so she left home at 17

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This weeks podcast is a solo episode from Tribe Sober's founder Janet Gourand.  We've launched a brand new program to help people who a ready to Break Free from the Booze

In this episode

• Are you fed up of being trapped in the Groundhog Day of Daily Drinking?

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My guest this week is an extraordinary woman – she was drinking alcohol at the age of 12 and shooting up with meths at the age of 17.  Not only did she get clean but she went on to qualify as a lawyer and eventually she was appointed a federal judge!

• Mary Beth has a traumatic childhood which included an abusive stepfather

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I’m recording this a couple of hours after hearing the appalling news that Eusebius McKaiser has died at the ridiculously young age of 44.

He was a national treasure for South Africans – an author, a journalist and broadcaster.  One of the smartest public intellects in the country he was a fierce defender of truth and justice as many politicians found out to their cost!

He was also a warm and generous friend.So instead of the planned episode I wanted to say a few words about my friend Eusebius and re-release one of the podcast interviews he did for Tribe Sober.

The story starts back in 2001 when I relocated from the UK to SA.  I started to watch national tv, trying to get my bearings in this beautiful and complex country.  I spotted Eusebius on a talk show and was impressed. I read a couple of his books and listened to him on the radio.  I discovered he’d been to Oxford University on a scholarship and had won a global award as a Debating Champion.

I first met him in person more than a decade ago…

Ironically I was drunk at the time!

We were at the Franschhoek Literary Festival where I’d been drinking wine most of the day.  This didn’t stop me dragging Long Suffering Husband to the Elephant and Barrel Pub in the evening. 

I spotted Eusebius in the bar.  He was with deep in conversation and I didn’t want to interrupt.  

However husband knew I was a fan and he nudged me towards him – not quite sure what Eusebius thought about this drunken Brit lurching at him but he was very kind.

For obvious reasons I don’t remember much about that conversation but that was the evening that our unlikely but enduring friendship was born.

I finally ditched the booze in 2015 and set up Tribe Sober.  Eusebius signed up for our Dry January Challenge and one of the mailers included my Goodbye to Alcohol letter – he asked me to come to Cape Talk and read it out on his Show.

So I did and we got plenty of calls from people who knew they needed to say Goodbye to Alcohol.  I’ll put a link to that radio program in the shownotes. 

Apart from reading my letter we raised more than R10,000 for Earthchild within 30 minutes.  Just like me he loved the work done by NGO Earthchild and for the last 8 years he helped me to fundraise more than R300,000  which enabled more than 1000 underprivileged children to get a year of yoga and lifeskill classes.

 I then became a regular on his show and many of our current and past members found us via Eusebius.  He loved the work we did at Tribe Sober and often promoted us on his social media.

He came to two of our workshops in Joburg.  The first one as a participant and the second one as my co-facilitator. 

We looked out for each other - he coached me to be a better speaker on the radio and I convinced him to start his own podcast when he left Cape Talk. 

Have a listen to this episode we recorded about 18 months ago

In this Episode

• The sober curious movement is growing – we have an endless variety of AF drinks, many online sobriety groups and even our own magazine Hola Sober.

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I got hooked on podcasting quite early on as I’ve been lucky enough to have some great guests and I’ve learned so much from them.  Many of our members have been kind enough to inspire others by sharing their stories on the podcast and as a result we’ve attracted new members from all over the world.

So staying with podcasting my guest this week is Podcast Business Coach and Weight Loss Guru - Adam Schaeuble.

His story is similar to mine in that he resolved his own issues and then went on to help others to do the same.  Adams problems were about food rather than alcohol so have a listen to his story. 

In this Episode

• Adam shared his personal transformation story with us

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This is a solo episode to celebrate my 8th Soberversary - I'm focussing on 8 mistakes to avoid  Mistakes I made myself and larned from.

In this episode:-

Mistake number 1 - Waiting for Rock Bottom 

TIP NUMBER ONE:  Do it now!  If you’re listening to this then the chances are that you are either already alcohol free (well done you!) or you are contemplating making a change.  If you are in the contemplation phase then you should know that the average time people spend in that place is an incredible 11 years!  Alcohol dependence is like an elevator and it’s only going down.  The longer you leave it the worse it will get so Do it Now!

Mistake number 2 - Trying to Moderate

TIP NUMBER TWO – Forget Moderation! People who can moderate just do it naturally – they wouldn’t be listening to this podcast. They might have a glass of champagne at a wedding or a glass of red wine with a special meal but alcohol is not really on their radar.  I’m guessing that’s probably not you (!) so redirect that energy you put into controlling an addictive drug into building an alcohol free life that you love!

Mistake number 3 - Fearing failure 

TIP NUMBER THREE – Progress not Perfection should be your strategy.  Drop me an email [email protected] and ask for one of our trackers and log those alcohol free days.  If you have a slip up then learn from it and get right back on track.  Remember that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback.  You’ve only failed if you stop trying!

 Mistake number 4 - Worrying about other people

TIP NUMBER FOUR - Find a new Tribe

In our alcohol drenched society it can be hard to be the odd one out, especially if you are an introvert as many problem drinkers tend to be.  So for the first few months at least join a new tribe – a sober community of people just like you.  You will be blown away by the warmth, vulnerability you will find.  Read some quitlit and listen to recovery stories on podcasts as well. 

Mistake number 5 - Being influenced by marketing, movies etc..

TIP NUMBER FIVE 

Reflect on the limiting beliefs you hold about alcohol.  Examples of limiting beliefs are… I need alcohol to have fun, to socialise, to relax, to de-stress, to reward myself for a difficult day, to celebrate a good day…the list goes on.  Work on overturning those limiting beliefs and see alcohol for what it really is – a poison which is linked to 7 cancers and 60+ diseases.  Read Annie Grace’s book This Naked Mind for more on this or come to one of our workshops.

Mistake number 6 - Waiting for happiness to strike..

TIP NUMBER SIX

Be aware that your brain is still recalibrating and healing as your natural dopamine receptors crank up again (they’ve got lazy as the wine has been doing their job for so long!) 

When you quit drinking you can’t just leave everything the same except for the drinking -  you’ll need to reconfigure your life/routine and get new interests

Recovery is about so much more than “not drinking” - that’s just the start…  After guiding hundreds of our members through this journey we’ve noticed that it takes about 6 months to change the habit and then another 6 months to “do the work”, and learn how to thrive in sobriety. 

Most importantly get a new interest/hobby to keep your happy brain chemicals triggers – go to meetup.com to see the many interests that people have…and go to udemy.com to find a course to sign up for.

Mistake number 7 - Being depressed about quitting –

TIP NUMBER 7

Get excited about this life changing opportunity.  You are going to look better, feel better, sleep better and be full of energy. 

Just take a look at some of the testimonials on our website if you’re not convinced!

Realise that you’ll be gaining so much more than you will lose!

Realise that addiction is a gift - as Laura K says in her book title we really are the luckiest - only people who have become dependent are pushed right to the wall and forced to question who they really are and what they really want out of life

Quitting is an opportunity – not a problem

Mistake number 8 - Trying to do it alone

TIP NUMBER 8

Find your people!  When I got sober 8 years ago AA was pretty much the only gig in town, and AA is not for everybody.  These days there are so many alternative paths to sobriety.  There is a modern recovery movement as more and more people wake up and decide to fight back against Big Alcohol.  We are the trailblazers and have decided to no longer poison our bodies and brains to contribute to the outrageous profits of the liquor industry.

It does take courage and confidence to do this but we’ve got plenty of that… and we’ve decided to become rebels rather than sheep!

There are sober communities on Instagram and TikTok as it becomes cool to run your back on alcohol.

So go on line and explore – find your people.

We’d love you to join tribesober which you can do by clicking this link

You can pay your subs monthly so try us out for a while – its easy to cancel if you decide that were not your people after all!

You can also join our free 5 day Sobriety Bootcamp which will give you a flavour of the support we offer…

From 5-9th June 

Info on website or just request to join the Sobriety Bootcamp Facebook Group

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Vanessa is a writer, photographer and wild water swimmer.  

Like so many of us she began drinking in her teens.  That was the beginning of a habit that started off as fun but evolved into something much darker over the years.

In this episode

• Vanessa divides her drinking career into phases:-
  

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My guest this week is Lily Shanks from Dallas.

Lily describes herself as a recovering attorney.

After graduating from a top tier-law school, Lily practiced commercial litigation in a Big Law firm but although she was able to indulge her passion for expensive cars and shoes the stress resulted in a daily wine habit.

She got sober and left her corporate job to train as a coach.

These days Lily specializes in recovery and relationship coaching and coaches her clients to create their best, most fulfilling lives, starting from the inside.

In this episode

• Lily discovered alcohol at a young age – via the liquor cabinet of one of her friends parents.  It tasted disgusting but she knew it would change the way she felt…so she persevered and found ways to disguise the taste

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My guest this week is Will Krause who is an author, entrepreneur and academic.  He helps addicts to quit using and then to go on and lead the life they were meant to live – he gives them hope

As you will hear he is passionate about analysing why people do what they do as he believes this is the key to change.

Will also believes that we can actually use this key to unlock the life of our dream

 In this Episode

• Will had an early tragic experience of addiction when his younger brother died

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