Ugly Crying

In Ireland, Mother’s Day is this Sunday, March 22nd 2020.

At a time like this – when the world is turned upside down, we should never fall short of gratitude. In particular, for our loved ones.

During this world pandemic, I’m currently not with my mom. I’m in Ireland and she’s in Canada: we’re oceans away. This podcast episode is for the ones without their mother’s warmth this Sunday. This is for the people who are isolating with their mother but find tension and disconnect because they haven’t spent a lot of time with their family during school and work – up until now. Or maybe their mother isn’t with them. And that’s all.

This podcast episode is for my mom, and your mom, and anyone that has raised you to be the person you are today – and to send a message that we are always connected, no matter where we are in the world or in life.

My boyfriend joins us on the podcast for the first time! Almost two years ago, I couldn't have told you I'd move to a new country and fall in love. But here we are. 

Giving relationship advice. Who decided that was even a good idea...

The episode rundown:

- What are Love Languages 

- How We Met Story

- How to tell someone you like them

- How to deal with long-distance

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My friend Virginie on instagram: @vily.rose

She's a major inspo and helped me create my vision board.

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"Always keeping it real!! Love everything about this share ❤️ and YOU!!" - @aydehill

"Great message you are pushing! Everyone needs to hear this!" - @yaboypitty

"Such a great post!! I love this! We all have failures of some kind and a perspective shift is definitely needed about this - thanks for leading the way." - @drtracydebi

"That's amazing Azia ❤️ keep it up and you'll be successful everywhere you go because success isn't measured by monetary value but by how you perceive accomplishment." - @annygrace9

"Oh Azia, thank you so much for sharing this! This is so scary to share and I'm so happy that you left feeling vibrant and not defeated! The more you put your intention out there the more success will come. The very fact that nobody came is actually a step forward because you made the networking event happened regardless of the outcome! Nobody shares this. Nobody shares when they fall on their face like this especially in a business. Thank you for being so transparent. I have immense respect for you." - @thefitty

"Wow I really really REALLY love this perspective of things and need to remind myself more of this each day." - @elliecelli

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In this episode, I talk about how I've increased my bounce back rate and the techniques I use to not let one bad thing ruin my day.

My Go-To list to Bounce Back:

• The Kimberley Wenya Podcast - Episode 137: Duality in Life + Is More Happiness Unrealistic? DID I GET IT ALL WRONG
• The Angie Lee Podcast - PLAY THIS 2X IF YOU NEED TO BE FIRED UP. FOLLOW YOUR FEAR.
• Write nonstop for 5 minutes to release whatever I'm feeling.
• Talk to a friend that RADIATES a feel-good emotion.
• Have I eaten? Slept enough? Drank enough water? Get down the necessities first.
• List off 3 things I'm grateful for.
• Shower.
• Detach the Self from the negative emotion.

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learn more about mindset on instagram: @azia_mery

read more on mindset on my website:
aziamto.com

email me for collabs
[email protected]

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learn more about mindset on instagram: @azia_mery

read more on mindset on my website:
aziamto.com

email me for collabs
[email protected]

"I just care TOO MUCH."

For the people pleasers, it's HEALTHIER to not give a F***?

"I just don't care."

"Nah, idk."

"Little things get to me sometimes."

Inspiration from the novel: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***

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read more on mindset on my website:
aziamto.com

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FOMO - Fear of Missing Out. What to do when you're missing out:

Being abroad means there are times when my friends and family are hanging out without me. It's such a common situation to be in - when everyone is making memories and you're not there to experience it.

I've learned to cope with EASE. FOMO is no longer hard for me. 

*Unfiltered: this episode started as a rant but it turned into a pretty neat and uncommon topic worth sharing about.

Try out these simple, mind shifts and tactics! Let me know in an iTunes review what you think. :)

Cheers!

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learn more about mindset on instagram: @azia_mery

read more on mindset on my website:
aziamto.com

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I recorded this episode back in the summer and although I make reference to summer times, it doesn't mean the slump never happens during the school year.

This applies to any moment when you're feeling down, what it's like to feel lost without knowing why, figuring out why you're sad,

& overall manage how to still get through the day as an emotional wreck when your emotions are yo-yo-ing (aka going uppp and downn, upp and downnn).

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read more on mindset on my website:
aziamto.com

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[email protected]

What did you think you were really good at - until you saw someone who was *actually* really good at it?

What are the RIGHT questions to ask yourself when you feel you're not good enough, when you feel you're a fraud, when you feel like someone is going to expose you and find out you're not as awesome as they think you are?

Why is imposter syndrome GOOD for you?

How to deal with imposter syndrome - big takeaways:

• You don’t owe anyone an explanation of your expertise. People question if you’re qualified? Why do they need to know? If you’re certain what you’re offering or who you are drives results, that’s all that matters.

• You can’t please everyone – there’s some stuff I say online that people disagree with. My parents disagree with me on things. I’m sure there are others who think I overshare or post too much on my stories. But I don’t say ‘F you and what you think’. That’s just disrespectful and unnecessary. I say ‘Cool. I respect everyone’s opinion, even if you disagree. Thank you for being honest and I’m keeping doing what’s good for me and what feels true or real to me. I choose to care more about my values than others.’ And I move on with my merry way.

• Imposter Syndrome is HEALTHY – if we all believed in ourselves 100% of the time, the world would fall apart because as order brings chaos, and chaos brings orders, we’d all have entitlement up our ass' and think we’re the best. But with everyone being the best, the best becomes the norm and no one is really the best.

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much love,

xx Azia

I invite my best friend Roberta and we spill the GOOD tea on: 

- GETTING OVER HEARTBREAK (how we heal, what is the GOLDEN mantra, tips and tricks to healing and loving yourself that we use)

- BE YOUR PERSONAL CHEERLEADER 

- OUR ONE QUOTE THAT SAVED US FROM STAYING IN A ROCK-BOTTOM-MOMENT

- PAST EXES (disclaimer: I'm grateful I met and dated all my past exes, they're all wonderful guys.)

- SEXY TIME (basically the whole one hour episode)

- "WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME"

Please leave us an iTunes review if you had an 'AH HA' moment, or maybe you really needed to hear something. 

Let me know on instagram! Screenshot the episode and post it on your story and tag me or Roberta! We would love to hear from you.

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