Unbridely - Modern Wedding Planning

I’m celebrating some huge milestones this year. There’s our 10 year wedding anniversary last week and my 50th birthday.

My 1000th couple getting married will be in about 6 weeks time and today, when this episode is published marks my 16th anniversary as an authorised Commonwealth marriage celebrant.

Today I’m sharing with you 16 of the most valuable lessons I’ve had to learn the hard way to help you plan and enjoy more of your wedding in just 30 minutes. 

Resources Mentioned:

‘A Diamond is Forever’ and Other Fairy Tales: The Relationship between Wedding Expenses and Marriage Duration

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by Never Miss Moments Unbridely's recommended wedding guest photo and video sharing tool. With your unique QR code, your family and friends can quickly, easily and securely share their snaps with you in your personalised online gallery.

Visit nevermissmoments.com/unbridely to receive your 10% discount off their galleries.

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Can you remember a time when you felt left out of a group? Maybe your friends got together and you weren’t invited, but then you saw them post a photo on socials, or you weren’t chosen for a sporting team or a project even though you know you would’ve been brilliant.

It stung, didn’t it?

As simplistic as it is, inclusivity in weddings can be as easy as allowing everyone to feel seen, valued and welcome.

I know you’re kind, but also, you don’t have a lot of spare time. You’d love to be an ally but also don’t want to have to take a short course on it. Right?

Today Ashlee is going to share: 

• what the gendered language and terms are in weddings, 
• why weddings need to evolve away from the default, and
• how you can challenge norms to make your wedding more inclusive.

RESOURCES

Ashlee Bunney on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleebunney_celebrant

Ashlee Bunney Celebrant website: https://www.ashleebunney.com.au/

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*The Unbridely Podcast is sponsored by its listeners. When you purchase products or services through links on our website or via the podcast, we may earn an affiliate commission.*

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by Easy Name Change.

You simply choose which companies you need to notify, and they send you detailed process instructions for each of your companies, plus ready to send forms, letters, and emails, so you just attach your marriage certificate to them and you're done!

More info on how to change your name after you get married: https://unbridely.com/blog/name-change-after-marriage

To get $5 off your name change use the promo code UNBRIDELY5 (valid until end of 2024) 

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Has someone said this to you yet?

• Our family doesn’t have kid-free weddings,
• You have to invite all of your Aunties and Uncles, or
• It’s not a real wedding without a sit-down dinner, open bar, DJ etc.

At the end of the day, as long as you and your fiancé are happy, what do the opinions of others matter anyway?

I think it matters a lot. 

So if you’re avoiding conflict or feel like you’re being pulled in 3 different directions at once by everyone’s expectations and opinions, or you’re having trouble sleeping at night because your brain is in overdrive, this episode is for you. 

I’d like to share with you how I try to deal with conflict and have difficult conversations without completely severing ties with the people that I love.

I hope this approach helps you with some of the dynamics of your family or friend groups and makes your wedding planning experience a little more smooth and a lot less stressful. 

Resources Mentioned:

Send Unbridely a 90-second audio message on Speakpipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/unbridelypodcast

*The Unbridely Podcast is sponsored by its listeners. When you purchase products or services through links on our website or via the podcast, we may earn an affiliate commission.*

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by WedSites.com, Unbridely's recommended all-in-one wedding website builder, guest management platform & wedding planning tool.

Visit WedSites.com to get started on your FREE wedding website and use code UNBRIDELYPOD to get 10% off any of their paid plans.

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

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This is Part 2 of multi-national award-winning hair and makeup artist Gaetana Marjas’ interview about some of the hot topics that come up with wedding beauty both in the lead-up and on the day. 

If you missed Part 1, Gaetana taught you about: 

• her recommended timing for skin care treatments leading up to your wedding, 
• how to address your specific skin-type concerns, 
• common mistakes that people make with their wedding makeup, and
• why, if it’s possible, she recommends you do a makeup trial.  

But of course, you can always go back at any time to episode 100 and catch up with her amazing masterclass. 

And in Part 2 today, Gaetana delves deeper into wedding trials and shares: 

• how far in advance you should schedule your hair and makeup trial, 
• what you should bring to your trial appointment,
• essential advice about how to make sure your wedding makeup lasts throughout the entire day and night, 
• the use of dupe products, plus
• Gaetana has prepared some FREE downloadable skin and hair prep guides just for you to make sure you look and feel your best not just on your wedding day, but in the leadup and afterwards. 

Resources Mentioned:

Get your FREE skin and Hair prep guides from Gaetana Marjas Hair and Makeup Artistry: 

https://unbridely.myflodesk.com/skinhairprep

Recommended setting sprays:

L’Oreal Paris Infallible 3-Second Setting Mist.

Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Setting Spray

Kryloan Fixing Spray

One/Size On Til Dawn Setting Spray

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by Never Miss Moments Unbridely's recommended wedding guest photo and video sharing tool. With your unique QR code, your family and friends can quickly, easily and securely share their snaps with you in your personalised online gallery.

Visit nevermissmoments.com/unbridely to receive your 10% discount off their galleries.

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show

Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unbridely/
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Have you considered that anywhere up to 99% of your wedding photos will feature your gorgeous face?

So while your venue choice is important and your outfit and flowers can add real impact, if your hair and makeup are important to you, it’s time to make it a priority. 

Gaetana Marjas is an experienced, trusted and sought-after hair and makeup artist based in Adelaide South Australia and today she is delivering a must-listen wedding makeup masterclass just for you. 

In part 1 (part 2 will be released next week) you’ll learn: 

• her recommended timing for skin care treatments leading up to your wedding, 
• how to address your specific skin-type concerns, 
• common mistakes that people make with their wedding makeup, and
• why, if it’s possible, she recommends you do a makeup trial.  

It’s also important for me to let you know that Gaetana’s advice is subjective and relates to her ability to do her job to the best of her ability. So when she mentions lash extensions this week and dupe products next week, for example, it’s her opinion and there is no hate on anyone who thinks or operates their business differently. Gaetana is not interested in creating clickbait controversy or ruffling anyone’s feathers.  

And from a safety perspective, here in Australia at least and if you reside somewhere else, please do your research, only medical doctors, dentists and nurses, with appropriate training/qualifications, are permitted to administer injectable treatments. 

So if you are considering undertaking injectable treatments Gaetana implores you to please seek qualified, professional and independent advice before you make your final decision. 

Resources: 

Gaetana Marjas Hair & Makeup Artistry: https://www.instagram.com/gaetanamarjas/

Send Unbridely a 90-second audio message on Speakpipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/unbridelypodcast 

*The Unbridely Podcast is sponsored by its listeners. When you purchase products or services through links on our website or via the podcast, we may earn an affiliate commission.*

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by the Unbridely Couples private Facebook group: https://facebook.com/groups/unbridelycouples

Are you engaged to be married and need planning advice, want to talk something out or share your wedding stories?

If you’re looking for a like-minded community of modern engaged couples join us in the Unbridely Couples Facebook group! 🙋

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

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There is, almost always, one partner who takes on the lion’s share of the wedding planning, the one who loves coordinating and researching, and then there’s the other partner who.. let’s just say they aren’t across what’s going on. 

Today I’m talking to the totally willing and absolutely eager partner who perhaps is missing the organisation and planning gene and is more than happy to leave it to their fiancé.

So if you're the 2nd human in this wedding, listen up & take notes if you need. 

Today I’m going to go through 5 ESSENTIAL wedding tips for YOU. They are going to get you some serious brownie points and help to make your relationship, your wedding and marriage so much more smooth and satisfying for the BOTH of you.

Or if you're the 1st human and you need your fiancé to read the room, get a clue, and help you out, feel free to send your other half the link to this episode.

RESOURCES

Send Unbridely a 90-second audio message on Speakpipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/unbridelypodcast

*The Unbridely Podcast is sponsored by its listeners. When you purchase products or services through links on our website or via the podcast, we may earn an affiliate commission.*

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AND want to get it done in 20 minutes or less. 💪

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show

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Are you quirky, funny, adventurous, nervous about public speaking, cheeky or shy?

Because, just like when you’re hungry, you might be craving a multi-course feast, a toasted sandwich or just a cookie, your wedding vows can be as elaborate or straightforward, as romantic and soppy or practical, as you like as long as they suit your taste.

So while many engaged couples are concerned with writing the perfect blend of hilarious, tear-jerking and meaningful vows, the smart ones, who are aware of their options, are tailoring the type or kind vows, as in the format of them, to their unique personalities.

And while you might be across what personalised wedding vows are, they are NOT your only option.

In this episode you’ll learn about:

• what personalised vows, ninja vows and whisper vows are,
• with some examples of each, plus
• the 3 questions to ask yourself to work out which type of wedding vow is perfect for you and your fiancé.

RESOURCES

How To Write Vows That Don’t Suck ebook by Unbridely

EP3: Tim & Simon - How to adapt hetero wedding traditions as a same-sex couple

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*The Unbridely Podcast is sponsored by its listeners. When you purchase products or services through links on our website or via the podcast, we may earn an affiliate commission.*

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by Easy Name Change.

You simply choose which companies you need to notify, and they send you detailed process instructions for each of your companies, plus ready to send forms, letters, and emails, so you just attach your marriage certificate to them and you're done!

More info on how to change your name after you get married: https://unbridely.com/blog/name-change-after-marriage

To get $5 off your name change use the promo code UNBRIDELY5 (valid until end of 2024) 

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show

Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unbridely/
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If I have to read or hear about yet another entitled bride bitching and moaning about how her bridesmaids don’t like the style of dress she’s chosen for them, or the colour, how much skin it shows, or they haven’t ordered them when she told them to, I’m going to scream. 

While I’ll always be an advocate for you to have whatever the hell you want for your wedding and I would never say that all tradition should be scrapped for all time, in this day and age, is the angst worth it?

Today I’m going to teach you about where the tradition of bridesmaids all wearing the same dress comes from and why. And then I’ll share my 7 compelling reasons why you might want to stop expecting bridesmaids to wear the same dress or outfit.

Resources Mentioned:

Send Unbridely a 90-second audio message on Speakpipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/unbridelypodcast

*The Unbridely Podcast is sponsored by its listeners. When you purchase products or services through links on our website or via the podcast, we may earn an affiliate commission.*

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by WedSites.com, Unbridely's recommended all-in-one wedding website builder, guest management platform & wedding planning tool.

Visit WedSites.com to get started on your FREE wedding website and use code UNBRIDELYPOD to get 10% off any of their paid plans.

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show

Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unbridely/
or TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unbridely

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Want to feel empowered, sexy, and celebrate your upcoming wedding in style?

One of the most personal, unexpected, intimate, exciting and never to be repeated gifts you can possibly give your future husband, wife, spouse or partner in marriage (and YOU) is a boudoir photography session. 

Boudoir photography has shifted and evolved a lot in the last few years and Marie from You. by Lifesketch is going to teach you how you don’t need a model-like body to do a boudoir photo session.

In this episode Marie also shares:

• how she helps her clients get over their fear and awkwardness, 
• alternatives to wearing lingerie,
• why she won’t Photoshop boudoir session photos, PLUS
• what the deal is with sharing your boudoir photos online. 

Resources Mentioned:

You. by Lifesketch on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/youbylifesketch/

https://youboudoir.squarespace.com/

Send Unbridely a 90-second audio message on Speakpipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/unbridelypodcast

*The Unbridely Podcast is sponsored by its listeners. When you purchase products or services through links on our website or via the podcast, we may earn an affiliate commission.*

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by Never Miss Moments Unbridely's recommended wedding guest photo and video sharing tool. With your unique QR code, your family and friends can quickly, easily and securely share their snaps with you in your personalised online gallery.

Visit nevermissmoments.com/unbridely to receive your 10% discount off their galleries.

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show

Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unbridely/
or TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unbridely

Email the Unbridely Podcast:
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If you’re feeling drained, like no matter how much sleep you get, you're still exhausted. Like the excitement from your engagement seems to have disappeared, leaving you feeling disillusioned or just wanting for it all to be over.

Maybe you’re noticing more tension in your relationships. Little wedding issues are turning into big arguments with your fiancé.

If any of this sounds familiar, you might be dealing with wedding planning burnout.

The first thing you need to know is that you’re not alone, and the second thing is, I’m here to help you!

In this episode, I’m going to teach you: 

• why burnout happens and how to spot it early on, 
• some strategies and practical tips to help you regain control of the planning process again, plus if all else fails, 
• 1 last, albeit extreme, option that you could take.  

Resources: 

1800 RESPECT: https://www.1800respect.org.au/

White Ribbon Australia: https://whiteribbon.org.au/helplines/

Relationships Australia: https://www.relationships.org.au/

(USA) National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/

(UK) Domestic Abuse Support: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help#get-help-and-support

(Canda) Family Violence Support: https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/cj-jp/fv-vf/help-aide.html

(NZ) Domestic and Family Violence Support: https://www.govt.nz/browse/law-crime-and-justice/abuse-harassment-domestic-violence/domestic-and-family-violence/

Send Unbridely a 90-second audio message on Speakpipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/unbridelypodcast 

*The Unbridely Podcast is sponsored by its listeners. When you purchase products or services through links on our website or via the podcast, we may earn an affiliate commission.*

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by the Unbridely Couples private Facebook group: https://facebook.com/groups/unbridelycouples

Are you engaged to be married and need planning advice, want to talk something out or share your wedding stories?

If you’re looking for a like-minded community of modern engaged couples join us in the Unbridely Couples Facebook group! 🙋

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show

Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unbridely/
or TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unbridely

Email the Unbridely Podcast:
[email protected]