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Unlearned
By Jaime Mahler and CA Rhoades
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How many episodes does Unlearned have?
The podcast currently has 73 episodes available.
Unlearned episodes:
June 24, 2024Ep 72: Can People Pleasers Consent? We hear a lot about consent in a sexual context, but what about the other places it shows up? Jaime and CA explore the nuance of consent and what it means in regards to our relationships and how we show up for our partners, friends, and family.Also - Come to our first ever in person retreat “The Spiritual Soma Release Retreat:” buy.stripe.com/14k5ldd0n1tQ51e6oFSupport the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearnedOrder Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kENotes:We’re back!Our first ever in person retreat!FRIES in ConsentWhere curiosity and enthusiasm come into playFuck yes vs yes energyHow our consent is perceivedWhy people resist “I guess”Where people pleasing comes into playStrategies to consenting properlyLinks:Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearnedFREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/IntentionpromptsCA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zdJaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithmeFollow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedselfCA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergenceEmail us topics/suggestions: [email protected]International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=oneboxLifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.Over 50 Club!Amanda B.Plamen S.Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)...more June 03, 2024Ep 71: I Didn't Have a Childhood Social media is filled with nostalgia and it can be a lot of fun. But what happens when you look at the shared childhood experiences of others and think to yourself, “that wasn’t me?” Join CA and Jaime as they explore what life looks like for those of us who have had to, more or less, raise ourselves. Is being a latchkey kid something we need to heal from? Listen in and find out.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Come to our first-ever in-person retreat: buy.stripe.com/14k5ldd0n1tQ51e6oF
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Jaime’s struggles with memory around her childhood
CA’s struggles with not having a carefree childhood
What happens when you don’t remember your childhood like other people do
Parentification - what it is and what it means
How parentification affects development
Latchkey kids and how they cope
Why we need to connect with ourselves and find our needs
Healing from our childhood trauma
Understanding and embracing your inner child
Using your inner child was a parent
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd
Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
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...more May 25, 2024Ep 70: Anxious-Attachment (Part 2) Jaime and CA continue their series on insecure attachment styles with a discussion on the anxious-attachment style. This time, Jaime opens up about her experiences as someone who naturally falls under this category.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Part 1
Ep. 39: The Justification Trap
Notes:
The most difficult part of attachment healing
How anxious-attachment types deal with discomfort in a relationship
The signs of an anxious-attached person
Why anxious attachment starts with “never being good enough”
Roleplaying anxious-attachment
What causes anxious-attachment people to spiral
Steps you can take to heal from being anxious-attachment
The importance of clear and direct communication
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd
Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
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...more May 06, 2024Ep 69: Avoidant-Attachment (Part 1) We’re back!
CA and Jaime return from their hiatus with a series on insecure attachment styles. In this episode, they explore the Avoidant-Attachment style both from a clinical standpoint and from a personal standpoint via CA’s experiences.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Happy Anniversary! We’re back!
Please consider supporting the show
Defining the four main attraction styles (Secure attachment, Anxious-ambivalent attachment, Anxious-avoidant, and Disorganized/disoriented attachment)
Where all insecure attachment styles come from
How does someone develop avoidant-attachment?
Why opposite attachment styles seem to be attracted to one another
CA’s journey as someone with avoidant-attachment style
How avoidant-attachment shows up in relationships
How to heal and form a healthy attachment style
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd
Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
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...more December 20, 2023Ep 68: Dissociation and Disengagement Are dissociation and disengagement the same thing? Is it ever healthier to more or less walk away to protect yourself? In this episode, CA and Jaime explore both dissociation and disengagement, using the analogy of a snowstorm. Join us to discover when we need to tough it out, put on a coat, or stay inside.Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearnedOrder Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kENotes:Emotional Support water bottles and missing wallsThe difference between consciously and respectfully disengaging and dissociationIs there a way to healthily disengage when there is too much pain?The mistakes we make while learning to protect ourselves in a good wayWhat happens if the other person isn’t safeLearning to trust your limits in a healthy wayLinks:Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearnedFREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/IntentionpromptsCA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zdJaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithmeFollow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedselfCA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergenceEmail us topics/suggestions: [email protected]International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=oneboxLifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.Over 50 Club!Amanda B.Plamen S.Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)...more November 27, 2023Ep 67: Recalibrating our Thresholds We all know that healing isn’t linear, but there does tend to be a moment when a corner is turned - where we begin to live our life again. What do we do then? Season 1 of the show focused on healing and trauma recovery. Join Jaime and CA as they introduce Season 2, which will focus on what happens after.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Introducing Season 2 - Life After Healing
What trauma healing really looks like
Societal beliefs and trauma recovery
Why should you learn and then honor your thresholds
How it feels to shift out of survival mode
How to approach recovery safely
Honoring your body and mind during the recovery process
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
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...more November 13, 2023Ep 66: Do they tolerate you? In this episode, CA and Jaime explore how relationships can serve as protective factors for trauma processing and healing. Especially relationships in which we are not merely tolerated, but rather accepted and, ideally, celebrated.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Sweater weather!
Changing energy and changing seasons
What are protective factors and how do they affect us?
Beginning the process of processing trauma
How relationships can be protective factors for trauma processing
What normal relationships look like
The importance of knowing whether you are being tolerated, accepted, or celebrated in a relationship
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
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...more November 06, 2023Ep 65: Angels and Demons Join Jaime and CA as they delve into the complexities of spirituality. They question whether religion has exclusive control over our spiritual experiences, provide a clear definition of spirituality, and dive into the topic of secular spirituality. Additionally, they explore the themes of self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, authority within the spiritual domain, and more.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Does religion own spirituality?
What is spirituality?
What is secular spirituality?
An example of an experience of secular spirituality versus an experience of religious spirituality
Fear-based spirituality and trauma
The source of spiritual power
Self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, and authority
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
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...more October 16, 2023Ep 64: The Cringest Episode We've Ever Done Join CA and Jaime as they dive into the concept of "cringe." They'll dissect its nature, explore why it makes us squirm, and reveal how trauma recovery can shift our understanding. Get ready for an eye-opening discussion that will change the way you think about cringe.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Super cringy opening
March Madness - but with kittens!
What is cringe?
What can cringe teach us?
Is it weird or is it a social contract
When do we begin to feel cringe?
Where perception comes into play
The link between cringe and trauma recovery
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
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...more October 04, 2023Ep 63: Exploring Personal Evolution with Audrey Assad Join CA and Jaime as they explore personal evolution with the internationally recognized singer, Audrey Assad. Discover the transformative power of music, delve into profound discussions on faith, suffering, and self-acceptance, and gain valuable insights into the art of living in the moment. Audrey's wisdom and experiences make for a truly inspiring conversation you won't want to miss.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Introducing Audrey Assad
The power of music - specifically with praise and worship music
Being ok with not having an answer
OCD and Black-and-White Thinking
The relationships between Christianity and suffering
The importance of radical self-acceptance
Learning to just live for the sake of living
Links:
Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0YoXD8jlj6RZ2i3qyUytzr?si=235516c3dd384d13
Audrey’s New Single: https://ffm.to/betteriscoming
Her substack: https://thevioletfields.substack.com/
Monica Martin: Go Easy Kid: https://open.spotify.com/track/50hN4KDpQILZpTejaifHZK?si=CWxhlOreT9aqcaAzgMVMlA
Website: http://www.audreyassad.com
Audrey’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/audreyassad
The liturgists podcast Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/scrupulosity/id903433534?i=1000447501709
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hXrkFJoM55UKJY9COQsMw?si=Bv2Zj5pST6KrSKbx-AY7Lg
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
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FAQs about Unlearned:
How many episodes does Unlearned have?
The podcast currently has 73 episodes available.
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