The tendency to compare ourselves to others is natural, but in a time where everyone's posting the glossiest versions of themselves online, it's easy to forget the reality of life... s**t happens to everyone! Join Fola and Rukiya this week open up about some personal things they've been experience whilst living a fruitful and prosperous life!

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This week we attempt to approach the controversial topic of big age gaps in relationships with less of the instant outrage and a little more compassion than you might expect! Our submitter is considering dating a man 15 years older than her, who is related to a family member... let's get into it- how old is too old to consider someone as a love interest?

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Maternal anxiety is expected when raising children, but should there be a cap on a parents anxiety once a child becomes a full grown adult? This week's toxic submitter is sick of her mother using anxiety as an excuse to stop her from going out and enjoying life, post dropping 4 stone and finding her sauce! Join Fola and Rukiya discuss their experiences with their mums' anxiety and what you can do to improve your relationship with an anxious parent.

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Competing with a mother-in-law for your husband's attention doesn't just happen in the movies, it's a real life struggle for many women out there! This week's submitter is in a silent feud with her husband's mother for his love, as her mother-in-law is doing her very best to pull sly power moves to take over Christmas. Let's get into mothers who have unhealthily obsessive relationships with their sons (and who may secretly want their sons to double up as their partners), and sons who enable their mothers' behaviour...

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Black women have been hypersexualised for as long as we can remember. From treating young Black girls as adults, to objectifying Black women's bodies, Black women continue to struggle to find the balance of wanting to be sexually desirable and respected. This week's toxic submitter has had a one night stand with someone from her work Christmas do and feels judged by her Black friends in comparison to her White friends who congratulated her on "getting it in". Join Fola and Rukiya discuss the Black communities approach to Black women having sex and why we should be taking on a different approach.

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This day and age, most religions no longer fit into the world in the way they once did. This week's submitter wants to understand why despite a lot of people not understanding religion, it is generally understood as sacred and something to be respected from the outside looking in. But often Christianity ends up in the firing line of a lot of criticism and seemingly doesn't receive as much grace and respect that people give to other faiths. Let's get into it on this week's episode!

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There are a few things in life that are guaranteed, one of them being people disappointing you. Whether intentional or not, it's inevitable you'll be put in a position of having to forgive someone someday, but navigating forgiveness can be one hell of a journey! This week's toxic submitters seeks the advice of Fola and Rukiya to help forgive and old friend and her dad who she feels resentment towards.

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I reckon near 100% of us can relate to not having a clue what our "purpose" is, and what career path to choose where we technically have so many options, but often still have no clue what they actually are! But why are we so hard on ourselves and unwilling to accept that finding that thing is just one of life's many inevitable and necessary journeys? Thanks to this week's submitter, we're properly talking about it!

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TW: Discussions of abuse

This week American singer-songwriter and model, Cassie filed a lawsuit against her former partner, Sean 'Diddy' Combs accusing him of domestic abuse and sex trafficking sending the internet into a frenzy, split by opinions on whether the allegations were true or not. This week's toxic submitter questions why Cassie has chosen to disclose her abusive relationship years later after separating from her alleged abuser. Join Fola and Rukiya discuss why questioning victims of abuse in 2023 is disappointing and what approach we should be adopting when victims of DV decide to speak up.

If you are a victim of abuse of think you may be in an abusive relationship we encourage you to seek information and professional support- https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

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No matter what size or body shape you have, as a woman it's safe to say that accepting your weight has likely been an issue for you at some point, if not all of your life! This week we chat about what seems like people's assumed rights over the beautiful Jorja Smith's body that we've seen in the media recently. We speak about how people's wayward behaviour points towards colourism, and our own experiences with our bodies and weight over the years too!

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