Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes

Want a Couch Friend? You Need to Be a Couch Friend


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Today I talk about two friendship terms I’ve been hearing more about lately: the “couch friend” and the “errand friend.”

Lots of people want these kinds of friendships because they’re supposed to be easy. You do life’s responsibilities together or you do absolutely nothing together – no planning or panic cleaning required.

But how do you find these friends? How do you find someone you’re so comfortable with that you can just sit back and watch TV in your sweatpants together, and it’s not weird? 

My thoughts? If you want a couch friend, you have to BE a couch friend. If you want an errand friend, you have to BE an errand friend. In this episode, I offer a few ideas about how to put that energy out into the world, from embracing spontaneity to encouraging your guests to get their own glasses of water.


In this episode you’ll hear about:

  • What a couch friend is, what an errand friend is, and why these kinds of relationships are often with already established friends
  • Leaning into a more casual energy from the getgo in a new friendship instead of putting your best foot forward
  • How I act when I have couch-type friends coming over (hint, I might be in sweatpants, and I’m probably not panic cleaning)
  • What kind of energy does somebody bring when they come over? Is it roommate energy? Or are you waiting on them?
  • Creative ways you might actually be able to spend time with a couch or errand friend even if you’re a parent or busy adult


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Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually TakesBy Alex Alexander

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