The Modern Therapist's Survival Guide with Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy

We Can't Help Ourselves


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Curt and Katie talk about how difficult it is for therapists to take care of ourselves. We look at why we struggle with the self-care that we teach our clients, including shaming in our field, lack of connection to our shadow-self, and where we seek support.

It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.

In this episode we talk about:

  • Why the Giving Tree is a bad role model
  • Road blocks therapists put in their own way
  • Katie’s notion of Sacrificial Helping
  • The wounded healer concept
  • The reasons we do not take care of ourselves
  • How we define our value, especially related to the idea that our value is to help others
  • The harm of valuing productivity over all else
  • The search for meaning – what we do is meaningful to us
  • Volunteering on top of the work we do
  • The idea that you can be impacted by the therapy you do
  • The role that the shadow self plays
  • The strict, externalized parent and oppositionality
  • The shame for not “self-caring” enough or believing in the “right” form or health from our field
  • Burnout’s effect on decision-making
  • The lack of training on how to use the coping strategies on yourself
  • How to make decisions better about self-care as a therapist
  • Opening space for mistakes in our field
  • How relational therapies can be a solution for therapists who are grappling with their own stuff
  • Where to seek support (and where not to seek support)
  • Intention versus reactivity
  • Resources mentioned:

    We’ve pulled together resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links.

    The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein

    Lori Gottlieb, MFT

    Irvin Yalom, MD

    Therapy Reimagined 2020 Call for Speakers

     

    Relevant Episodes:

    Self-Care, Self-Compassion, and Self-Awareness for Therapists

    Vulnerability, Mistakes, and The Imposter Syndrome

    The Danger of Poor Self-Care for Therapists

    Compassion Fatigue

    Therapists in Therapy

    Toxic Work Environments

    Managing Vicarious Trauma

    The Burnout System

    Addressing the Burnout System

    The Mental Load of Therapists

    All Kinds of Burned Out

    Impaired Therapists

    Therapist Suicide

    When is it Discrimination?

     

    Connect with us!

    Our Facebook Group – The Modern Therapists Group

    Get Notified About Therapy Reimagined 2020 (and TR2019 Virtual Conference)

     

    Our consultation services:

    The Fifty-Minute Hour

     Credits:

    Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/

    Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano http://www.crystalmangano.com/

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