There are BIG changes happening here at The Universal Needs! We’re excited to tell you about this change as will enable us to reach more people and make our work more accessible.

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 70 - Burning the candle at both ends series - The Needs Formula is now LIVE!

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If everything we do is done to meet our needs, why do we often feel so depleted? The answer to this is the Needs Formula. Today we discuss what the Needs Formula is and how we can navigate through it in order to feel more nourished and resourced.

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Episode references:

The episode where we talk about the red-green spectrum is Episode 3 - I need to do WHAT?

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 69 - How to say no when you find it really hard is now LIVE!

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Are you a “yes” person? A lot of us have been conditioned to say “yes” from a young age. But when we say “yes” to things either without checking in with ourselves or when we actually mean to say “no”, it compromises more needs than it meets. Today’s episode deals with reasons why we feel compelled to say “yes” and how to say “no”, even to yourself.

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Episode references:

Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility

Episode 30 - What happens when the Pride (Parade) comes AFTER a fall…

Episode 35 - Self worth Series: The link between self worth and self care

Other references:

U.K. Comedian Sarah Millican on saying “no” https://fb.watch/i8GPp5T8us/

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 68 - That’s not rambling, it’s meeting your needs is now LIVE!

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Do you sometimes find yourself apologizing for ‘rambling’? Rambling is regarded as undesirable behavior and we often apologize for it. In reality it’s serving a very important purpose. Find out how “rambling” can be a great way of processing your emotion in today’s episode.

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Episode references:

The anger, judgment and carrots episode is Episode 33 - Why there's no such thing as negative emotions

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 67 - People Pleasing Series - The problem with putting others first is now LIVE!

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Society applauds people-pleasers and praises their “selfless” acts. In reality, when we put ourselves last on our agenda, our needs - especially our value need - get severely compromised. Today's episode explains how there is a far better way than to get our needs met... meeting them in a selfirst way!

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Episode references:

Episode 2 - The wisdom of Joey Tribbiani

Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility

The episode we refer to where we speak about the relationship orbits is Episode 17 - What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come.

Other references:

"That's the problem with putting others first, you yourself taught them that you come second" - Ranjini Banerjee

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 66 - People Pleasing Series - Sorry Not Sorry is now LIVE!

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Do you apologize for every little thing, even when you've done nothing wrong? Unwarranted apologies compromise your needs, especially your value need. Although most of this behavior is unconscious and stems from past traumas and conditioning, there are simple steps you can take to process, heal and start acknowledging to shift this pattern of behavior.

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Episode references:

The episode in which we mention the forest is Episode 36 - Self worth Series: Why it's so hard to feel 'enough'

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 65 - People Pleasing Series - The root of most people pleasing is now LIVE!

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Most people have found themselves engaging in people-pleasing behavior at some point in their lives, but not many of us realize that the reasons for this lie in our The Universal Needs. In this first episode of the series, we delve into the roots of people-pleasing and how we can start to heal those behaviors starting with small changes.

TRIGGER WARNING: Mention of domestic abuse

Episode references:

Episode 4 - Well that wasn't his 'ducking' responsibility, was it?

Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series (1) - The difference between guilt and shame

Other references:

Clark doll social experiment -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZryE2bqwdk

Ted Talk by David R. Williams - How racism makes us sick

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzyjDR_AWzE

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 64 - When rising above can bite you in the ass is now LIVE!

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Most of us feel proud when we "rise above" a situation or look up to people who do. What we don't realize is how much it compromises our needs. Today we share how to approach challenging situations in a selfirst way that honors your emotions and heals the root to minimize the risk of situations triggering you again in the future.

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Episode references:

The Feather brick truck episode is Episode 48 - When pretending everything is OK compromises your needs further

Selfirst series - Episodes 20, 21 & 22: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…; The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility; A safe space vs a comfortable space, how a comfortable space can actually cost your needs

Episode 33 - Why there's no such thing as negative emotions

Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series (1) - The difference between guilt and shame

Episode 51 - How to increase your resilience

Other references:

'The Great Pain Deception' by Steven Ray Ozanich

Work by Dr. John Sarno for more information about the mind-body connection

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 63- If you loved me... is now LIVE!

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Whether you've said this phrase in the past or have been at the receiving end of it, a request that includes "if you loved me..." does not benefit anyone's needs. So how can we move from manipulation and feelings of obligation to mutual love and respect for each other's needs?

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The Episodes we reference in this episode are:

Episode 41 - Why your intention REALLY doesn't matter

Episode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series - That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanity

Episode 61 - Friendship series - Clearing niggles

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 62 - Treat every customer like a regular is now LIVE!

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There are occasions where customer experiences leave a person with a bitter taste in their mouth. Whether you're a customer or a business owner, the type of interactions with staff can have a great impact on business flow, reputation, customer retention and customer experience. Today we share how you can create an exceptional customer experience, as well as how this approach can change your experience in EVERY area of life.

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