Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 52 - When the pursuit of happiness compromises your needs is now LIVE!

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So often people talk about their desire to be happy, and it seems that many of us view happiness as the goal in life. But what if we told you that isn't true...and in FACT how seeking happiness can actually compromise our needs and get in the way of what our innermost being is actually seeking?

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 51 - How to increase your resilience is now LIVE!

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With everything we have been going through over the past few years, and the amount of trauma we have been dealing with and healing from, the need for resilience has never been more obvious, but what is resilience in the context of needs? And how do you cultivate it simply and easily in alignment with your capacity? Today we share all about it..

TRIGGER WARNING: There is a genuine scream live on this recording

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The C-word episode was  Episode 19

The impact over intention episode was Episode 41 - Why your intention REALLY doesn't matter…

The feather, brick truck episode was Episode 48 - When pretending everything is OK compromises your needs further

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 50 - Why it is never a good idea to go past your capacity is now LIVE!

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There are times when we make the choice to go beyond our capacity because in the short term it seems like it will serve us better. But as we recently discovered, it is never a good idea to go past your capacity...so we decided to tell the story, and what we learned from it.

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The episode in which we share about the glass and plastic balls is Episode 20 - What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 49 - You don't have to be in crisis to get help and support is now LIVE!

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So often we wait until we're at crisis point before we get help and support, but not only does this compromise our needs, it might actually prevent us from the support that would mean we wouldn't actually get to crisis point. Today we talk about other ways to approach getting help and support that can give us more of what we need at the time when it would be most helpful to us.

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 48 - When pretending everything is OK compromises your needs further - is now LIVE!

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Sometimes we might pretend to ourselves that everything is OK as a short term coping mechanism. There's nothing wrong with that if it is just that, a 'short-term' strategy. But the more we do this, the more we compromise our needs...so today we offer an alternative approach in moments like this.

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 47 - What you have the capacity for in any given moment is what you need most in that moment - is now LIVE!

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So often we have high expectations of ourselves, of what we want to do, of what we believe we SHOULD do that we push ourselves beyond what we have the CAPACITY to do. Today we talk about how this compromises our needs and how taking a step back can support our needs better in the short AND long term.

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In recent years we've heard more about the importance and value in holding space for someone. But what does it mean to hold space? And how do you do it?

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series (3) - That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanity - is now LIVE!

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As we've discussed in previous episodes, guilt can often be a positive thing and a helpful tool...but what happens when someone tries to manipulate that helpful tool and use it to meet their OWN needs?

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Episode 21 is the episode from the Selfirst Series about The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility.

Episode 16 is the breakdown of how to give an effective apology

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 44 - The Guilt & Shame Series (2) - That's not guilt, it's shame in disguise - is now LIVE!

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A lot of our trouble with guilt is that we think something is guilt, when it is actually shame. So today we discover how to notice when something isn't guilt, it's shame in disguise.

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TRIGGER WARNING: Homophobia and Internalized homophobia

Episode 21 is the episode from the Selfirst Series about The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility.

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series (1) - The difference between guilt and shame - is now LIVE!

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Many many people battle with guilt and shame, so we though it would be helpful to do a series focusing on these two experiences. One of the biggest issues most people have is that they often confuse guilt for shame and vice versa, so in our first episode of the series we get really clear, what is the difference between guilt and shame?

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Our slightly amended version of Gabor Mate's definition of addiction is:

"Any behavior that gives you temporary relief or temporary pleasure, but in the long term has negative consequences in your life or causes you physical, mental or emotional harm, and you can’t (or find it very hard to) give it up despite those negative consequences."