Well, That F*cked Me Up! Surviving Life Changing Events.

Send us Fan Mail

What if one of the most devastating, life-altering experiences isn’t visible from the outside but silently shatters someone’s identity, relationships, and sense of control?

As a Harvard-trained fertility specialist, Gabriela Rosa, has spent over 20 years working with individuals and couples whose lives were flipped upside down by the heartbreak of not being able to conceive. She’s walked beside thousands through the silent trauma of repeated loss, the mental health fallout of failed attempts, the breakdown of marriages, and the overwhelming isolation that comes when your body doesn’t do what it’s “supposed to.”

The pain is real - even though the world often dismisses it. And the recovery? It requires an entirely new way of relating to your body, your dreams, and your definition of self-worth.

Gabriela comes with the collective stories of the people she’s helped through their darkest, most vulnerable moments. She believes that behind every fertility challenge is a human experience of trauma, and she has powerful insight into what healing looks like when life doesn’t go as planned. Thanks Gabriela for an amazing chat!

Site: https://fertilitybreakthrough.com

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

Shigeko Ito, is an educator, mental health advocate, and author of THE POND BEYOND THE FOREST: Reflections on Childhood Trauma & Motherhood. 

She grew up in Japan and immigrated to America in her twenties to pursue higher education, earning a PhD in Education from Stanford University. Drawing on cross-cultural experiences and academic expertise, she explores themes of trauma, resilience, and healing, with a particular focus on childhood emotional neglect, and severe and very scary mental health problems, including psychosis, as she struggled to recover from complex PTSD.

For many years, she worked at a Montessori preschool in Seattle, Washington, where she lives with her husband of thirty years. Her articles have appeared on the CPTSD Foundation’s blog and on the ADAA (Anxiety and Depression Association of America) website. 

Shigeko recognized a need for change in her life as a mother and was committed to breaking the cycle of intergenerational trauma and she shares how writing has helped her to understand and heal herself.

Website: shigekoito.com

Facebook: facebook.com/shigekoitomemoir

Instagram: instagram.com/shigekochakoito

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shigekoito-memoir

Twitter/X: x.com/ShigekoChakoIto

Bluesky: bsky.app/profile/shigekoito.bsky.social

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

Severn Lang is a talented, driven director from Urbandale, Iowa. Growing up in a small town in the Midwest, life was a constant struggle for him. At a young age, Severn's brother passed away and he was diagnosed with extreme dyslexia with other life changing events, making school much harder for him than his peers. Severn, he turned to other, more creative outlets to learn, grow and find his voice. Severn preferred hands on learning to the classroom, and was able to find solace in the Boy Scouts of America, art, music, poems and mechanics. He became an Eagle Scout at sixteen and learned patience and leadership skills that he still applies to his directing and film endeavors today. In his creative endeavors,  Severn would often help hair stylists on set and discovered that he had a knack for the artistry in hair. A life decision to  attend The Professional Cosmetology Institute, located in Ames, Iowa. With his new skill he was able to move to Los Angeles where the film seed was planted and took root and blossom from the creative waters with in Los Angeles. With hopes and dreams a rise, tragedy always happens. With in Severn tragedy story he found help in unlikely places. With in the rooms of Recovery he was able work through the dirty waters of addiction in to the man he is now. With one day at a time over 10 years he has tied the long days together to make a life for him self. Severn moved to Los Angeles, where he spent ten plus years working as a hair stylist, while simultaneously pursuing opportunities in film. Thank you for such a wonderful honest discussion Severn!

Site: https://www.severnlang.com/

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

This week we are thrilled to chat to Gil Merrick, author of the powerful memoir Haunted Victory: Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse and the Decades of Addiction That Followed. His story is raw, deeply personal, and ultimately one of resilience and redemption. In Haunted Victory, Gil recounts his experience as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and how that trauma fueled a decades-long battle with addiction. His memoir isn’t just about pain, it's also about healing. With striking honesty, Gil shares the long, often difficult journey of reclaiming his life, relationships, and sense of self. This episode details Gil’s story and we discuss themes of SA and other adult themes. 

Book: https://a.co/d/1F7thBU

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

CONTENT WARNING, GRAPHIC CONTENT, VIOLENCE, SEXUAL VIOLENCE, MURDER, TORTURE, SEXUAL ABUSE, CHILD ABDUCTION: YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED PLEASE OBSERVE:

When Shasta Groene was eight years old, she and her 9-year-old brother Dylan were abducted from their Idaho home by serial killer, Joseph Edward Duncan. After a forty-eight-day ordeal, she was rescued, her brother wasn’t. Surviving those weeks in the woods was only the beginning of her harrowing journey. In the following years she struggled to outrun her trauma, a pattern of self-destructive behavior shadowing her like an ever-worsening thunderstorm. But she still had hope buried deep inside, every bit as much as the little girl who had been held captive in the woods. This would be an all-new battle for Shasta. And she was determined not to lose.

In this EXCLUSIVE Part 1 Episode, Shasta recounts in graphic and harrowing detail, the events leading up and including the murder of her family in front of her, and her abduction and the forty-eight day ordeal and her eventual escape!

Shasta’s experience has been turned into an amazing book by #1 New York Times Best Selling author Gregg Olsen who will feature along with Shasta in Part 2.  

The book is: ‘OUT OF THE WOODS: A Girl, a Killer, and Lifelong Struggle to Find the Way Home’

Gregg was able to get Shasta to open up and share her trauma. He is a true talent and an impassioned voice for victims and their families. Olsen has been a guest on Dateline, 48 Hours, 20/20, Good Morning America, CBS Mornings, Today, FOX News, CNN, Anderson Cooper, MSNBC, Entertainment Tonight, Snapped, Forensic Files, Inside Edition, Nancy Grace, Extra, Access Hollywood, NPR and Biography, among dozens of other shows. 

We can’t wait to have them both on for PART 2 to understand Shasta’s continued trauma recovery from this utterly devastating ordeal. 

Thank you Shasta we are blessed to have you.

Out Of The Woods: https://a.co/d/1l3GoP9

Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joseph_Edward_Duncan

Shasta’s GoFundMe link - It directly supports her and her children with living expenses and essentials. Here’s the link: https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-shasta-groene-and-her-children

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

Gina Horan, is a terminal lung cancer survivor and author of The Dead Girl’s Guide to Terminal Cancer, 

Gina joins us to share her story and an uncensored survivor’s perspective on cancer, immunotherapy, and why the modern medical system is failing itself and its patients.

In 2019, Gina was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and given just 72 hours to live after a year of declining health and mistreatment by some medical professionals. Nearly six years later, she is cancer-free and healthier than ever. In The Dead Girl’s Guide to Terminal Cancer, Gina shares her remarkable journey to show that survival is possible—even when doctors say otherwise. 

CONTENT WARNING: Our listers should know that this at times, can be a hard listen, with discussions about near death and despair. But, Gina is here, and has a great sense of humor to add! 

Amazon: https://a.co/d/59zlJlE

Substack: http://substack.com/@eugeniahoran

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

In this episode, we meet Ian Fee, and discuss his story from alcoholism to sobriety!

After losing everything due to over-drinking from a very young age, Ian reached a breaking point and began his journey to reclaim his life. Today, Ian is a successful author and entrepreneur.

Proudly sober since 2017, he has dedicated himself to personal growth, family, and living a life of purpose and clarity. His journey from addiction to empowerment has become his mission: to help others trapped in the same cycle of self-destruction break free and embark on their own transformative path to health, passion, and a renewed mindset.

Through his book, Wild Ride To Sobriety, Ian aims to inspire others to overcome their struggles and embrace a life of balance, success, and fulfillment.  

We love this episode!

Site: https://makeitgreat.me/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/makeitgreat.me/reel/DCXkQ8YA9uW/

Book: https://www.amazon.com/Wild-Ride-Sobriety-Transformation-Oblivion/dp/B0DHYR1YST/

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

Dr Kate Lund is a psychologist, TEDx speaker, and podcast host of The Optimized Mind, and she spends her days helping people turn those "what now?" Moments into genuine resilience.. Her work centers on translating over 20 years of research into simple, science-backed habits that real humans can use during in their hardest of times, whether they're navigating parenthood, setbacks, or that feeling of life falling apart.

Dr Kate talks about her early childhood with hydrocephalus, (she explains what that is!!) and subsequent tumor diagnosis, and how that set her apart as different than her peers and at the same time fostered a sense of resilience and possibility beyond the challenges. 

As a best selling author, she has seen firsthand how messy, imperfect resilience can change someone’s story. Her book, ‘Step Away: The Keys to Resilient Parenting’, is out in October 2025. 

Book: https://a.co/d/4CaffaC

Site: Www.katelundspeaks.com 

TedX: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p6YcTsWySU&t=14s

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

WARNING: VERY GRAPHIC AND GORY DESCRIPTIONS OF HARROWING MOMENTS.

Jay Setchell has been dead 3 times. In 1969 in the Marines, in 1973 by a DUI driver, and then a third time in 1981, a swimming pool incident, involving drowning, multiple broken vertebrae in neck, and paralyzed from shoulders down.This really is an insane episode and not for the faint hearted, but Jay is HERE to tell his ongoing story! Beyond this, Jay was close to dying from blood borne MRSA staph infection in 2004, and his wife was told to go home and make funeral arrangements from Covid Delta in 2021. 73 surgeries and counting and after everything, Jay NEVER stopped trying. Whether it’s courage, grit, perseverance, determination, anger, pain, or just being pissed off, Jay’s mantra is “it’s always too soon to quit”! Jay is 75 1/2 as describes life as a gift,  even with being largely paralyzed, and in immense amounts of pain on a daily even an hour basis. Jay has been divorced twice, married 3rd times, has adopted kids, natural kids, step kids, and many grandkids!! Join us to hear Jay’s outlook on life today!

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

This is an episode like nothing we have ever experienced before. Here at WTFMU, we like to show the journey through the darkness, and how we have navigated through our traumas and experiences. Yousef's story, was focusing on his burnout from relationships and business, and how he started to turn a corner. It quickly transpired that Yousef is using AI to turn his hopes, dreams, fortunes and entire life around! Yousef hit a brutal wall, a devastating breakup, total burnout, and financial collapse that stripped away everything he thought made him strong. As the episode goes on, we hear that Yousef spends up to 18 hours a day in Chat GPT!!! At times not leaving the house for days on end, and is now at a point where he works with Chat GPT to make every single decision in his life, from whether to take a shower, to who he should be friends with! We would love your thoughts and feedback on this episode.

[email protected]

LinkedIn

Instagram

Website 

Support the show