Sex With Emily

We’re Giving Up Performative Sex


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We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex.

First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop.
  • How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.
  •  The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms).

  • Show Notes:

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