March 12, 2024

What Science Teaches Us About Building Strong Kids [Melody Johnson, Ep. 29]

1 hour

If you are a parent or teacher of ANY kind, this episode is for you.

Melody Johnson is a child development expert and founder of SKILLZ, a child development program designed to help martial arts teachers motivate their students to become the the best version of themselves, using science backed strategies.

In this episode, Melody discusses her brain bank theory, which emphasizes the importance of making deposits and withdrawals in our mental resources.

She explains that deposits can be made through activities such as getting quality sleep, exercising, eating well, learning, and connecting with others. Johnson also highlights the significance of building connection with children and making more deposits than withdrawals in their brain banks.

She suggests being attuned to a child's nature and developmental needs, as well as empowering them to make choices. Additionally, Johnson emphasizes the importance of self-care and making deposits in our own brain banks.

She delves into the concept of behavior by fear versus behavior by desire and how it applies to teaching martial arts. Melody also shares insights on coaching her son's flag football team.

She discusses the effects of COVID-19 on children and offers advice on building positive conversations.

Takeaways

Make deposits in your brain bank through activities like getting quality sleep, exercising, eating well, learning, and connecting with others.

Build connection with children to make deposits in their brain banks and empower them to make choices.

Be attuned to a child's nature and developmental needs, and avoid overstimulating introverts or under-stimulating extroverts.

Practice self-care and make deposits in your own brain bank to avoid burnout. Active service can create a warm feeling and provide a sense of fulfillment.

Understanding the love languages of others can improve relationships.

Theory X and Theory Y CEOs have different approaches to leadership and employee behavior.

Teaching behavior by desire is more effective than teaching behavior by fear.

Positive conversations and emotional awareness are crucial for child development.

Giving children options to earn their belt can increase their motivation and sense of accomplishment.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:27 The Brain Bank Theory

06:34 Making Deposits in Children's Brain Banks

07:27 Building Connection with Your Child

08:50 Making Deposits in Others' Brain Banks

09:19 Self-Care and Making Deposits for Yourself

13:23 Understanding Your Child's Nature

16:11 Attunement and Empowering Your Child

23:22 Balancing Deposits and Withdrawals

26:39 Energizing Activities and Recharging

29:44 Love Languages and Acts of Service

30:12 The Power of Active Service

30:57 The Five Love Languages

31:26 Theory X and Theory Y CEOs

32:25 Behavior by Fear vs. Behavior by Desire

33:23 Teaching Positive Behavior in Martial Arts

35:16 Using Trickery to Teach Focus

36:13 Coaching Youth Sports

37:12 Building Behavior by Desire

38:09 Understanding Child Development

41:02 The Impact of Negative Parenting

45:48 The Effects of COVID-19 on Children

46:43 The Importance of Positive Conversations

47:39 The Influence of Parental Conversations

48:09 Helping Children Earn Their White Belt

51:13 Building Behavior by Fear vs. Building Behavior by Desire

52:10 The Impact of Punishment on Identity

55:30 Giving Children Options to Earn Their Belt

58:54 Connecting with Melody Johnson

59:24 Recommendation for Martial Arts Schools

You can contact Melody here: [email protected]

Join her free facebook group here: Melody Johnson's Free SKILLZ Tips

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By Matthew Brenner

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