Why have you chosen a complicated, difficult relationship?

Why are we choosing complex, difficult relationships?

Because we want to.

Yes—you’re afraid of intimacy. 

You’re afraid of commitment.

Do you choose men who make you pine for them?

It is all us.

It’s all you.

Why do I want this complexity?

We are all choosing to match what happened with our parents.

The discomfort of love and relationship—the pain of bad relationships—actually becomes our norm in our brains.

And we keep trying to repeat it.

We are trusting our chemical attraction and following that… more than we are following our actual want.

The conflict is this:

I want security.

I want ease.

I want to feel relaxed.

But just waiting for him to do stuff, and spending your life waiting—

that is a choice we make because we really don’t want a relationship.

You’ve been trained to choose what’s difficult.

But it can feel natural—even easy—to want connection, commitment, and love - and start baby-step by baby step to let love in! 

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Love, Rori