When Marriage Is Hard

When you have a loved one who is struggling with their mental health, the holiday season can be a mine field!

With more stress (even good stress!) comes more flair ups, meaning all your best laid plans could fall apart in a second. Your spouse might have an anxiety attack just as you are heading out the door to go to the church Christmas party, or they might disappear into the bedroom for days at a time, leaving you to manage all the gift buying, wrapping and planning all on your own.

In this episode, I am showing you the two things to focus on that will help you feel more calm, help you tackle any scenario that comes your way, and help you let go of resentment and start feeling more love and connection this holiday season.

Do you ever find yourself having a good day where you are feeling calm and your spouse is doing well and then you immediately get hit with a wave of anxiety?

Yup. You're not alone!

We are generally not very good at tolerating our positive emotions like joy, happiness, contentedness, peace and love. So today we are talking all about how to lean into it and start expanding our capacity for real joy!

The way you see yourself can drastically impact the helath of your marriage. In this episode, we discuss what your self identity is, where it comes from, how it impacts your marriage relationship and how to change your self identity and by extention, your marriage.

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Every couple has those issues that are just difficult to solve. You start fighting and feel like it is getting you nowhere. It might be:

- Money

- Sex

- In-law relationships

- Division of Household duties

- Electronic use (phones or videogames)

Whatever the issue is for you and your spouse, there is good news. These issues are totally solvable. In this episode, I'm giving you the do's and don'ts for how to solve all these problems.

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Everyone fights. Even healthy couples. In fact, conflict can be a great catalyst for change, improvement and learning for you and your spouse.

In this episode we discuss what you can do after the fight to help propel you into success in the future. It's magical!

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We've all expereinced thos days (and sometimes months) where you just can't shake that feeling of exhaustion. It doesn't matter how much sleep you get, it doesn't seem to touch it.

In this episode we are going to talk about how to combat that exhaustion and how to start moving forward again. I'm telling you all about my personal expereince with exhaustion over the last year and the things that have helped me the most.

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Is it possible to have a real partnership marriage, even when your spouse is struggling with their mental health?

YES!

We are talking to relationship expert, Aimée Gianni MS about how to avoid getting stuck in and overfunctioning role in your relationship, cultivate friendship and avoid resentment. It is powerful stuff!

Resources mentioned by Aimée:

Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch

Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown

Everything Isn't Terrible by Dr. Kathleen Smith

Aimée Gianni, MS, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Love Relationships. She teaches her clients The Art of Intimate Connection and helps them create strong, loving, joyful relationships and meaningful lives that they love, full of authenticity, connection, passion, fulfillment, and physical well-being. It's her favorite thing to do! As a Master Coach Instructor she trains relationship coaches how to do this important work with their clients. You can learn more about her work at AimeeGianni.com and follow her on Instagram @aimeegiannims

We all need an escape sometimes, but usually we feel really guilty about it or we don't even know that we are doing it (hello...Netflix).

In this episode, I'm telling you all my guilty pleasure and how having those little escape valves set up in your life can actually be really great for your life and relationship.

My Current Favorite Romance Authors-

The All Souls Trilogy by Debroah Harkness

A Throne Of Glass Series by Sarah J. Maas

The Bridgerton books by Julia Quinn

A Court Of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas

Every Marriage, even the best ones, have unsolvable problems. Often times these are one of the Big 3 - Money, Sex or Family.

But just becasue the issue is unsolvable doesn't mean that we need to resign ourselves to fighting constantly about the same issues for the rest of our lives.

In this episode we are discussing strategies for how to turn these unsolvable problems into opportunites for growth and resilience in your marriage relationship.

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When your spouse has mental health struggles, it can affect every aspect of your family life, especially how you and your spouse parent together.

This week we are diving into how you can make the most of your parenting relationship, help support your spouse's positive relationship with your children, and how it can actually be the best thing for your child.