"I'm just Type A—that's why we clash."

"I'm an Alpha male. This is just who I am."

"I'm anxiously attached. I can't help how I react."

I hear these statements constantly in my coaching work. And every time, I watch the same thing happen: growth stops. The label becomes a shield. The framework becomes a prison. And the marriage stays stuck.

In this episode, I'm examining three of the most popular psychological frameworks people use to explain their behavior—and what the research actually says about them.

Spoiler: the science doesn't support what most people think it does.

What We Cover:

Type A personality and what the research really found (hint: it's not about drive or ambition)

Alpha Male theory and the wolf study that's been debunked for decades

Attachment styles—solid research that people are using in terrible ways

Why these frameworks become barriers to change instead of pathways to growth

The difference between using psychology as a map vs. using it as a jail cell

Fair Warning

This episode is direct. If you're invested in one of these frameworks, you might feel defensive listening to it.

Pay attention to that reaction. It's information.

Because your marriage doesn't need more explanation for why things aren't working. It needs change.

And change becomes impossible when you're more committed to protecting your identity than examining your impact.

This episode is about coachability—the willingness to question what you think you know about yourself in service of building the marriage you actually want.

Ready to get uncomfortable?  Listen below.

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