November 05, 2020

Whitney Miller - How to Face Your Deepest Insecurities to Improve Your Self Esteem

1 hour 3 minutes

My guest today is the former Miss United States and sports anchor, Whitney Miller. She has found her true calling helping individuals and couples as a love, sex and relationship coach. Her experiential journey to self-mastery started 5 years ago with her well publicized open relationship with an ex fiance.

Whitney has since joined forces with some of the leading scientists and researchers in the field, and now hosts talks and workshops around the world. She believes that regardless of your relationship construct, monogamous or open, there are always ways to create more love, better sex, and healthier, happier relationships.

If you are someone who struggles dealing with your personal insecurities, and you’re tired of hearing people tell you what to do with your life, then you should listen to this episode. Whitney and I will be talking about her incredible backstory, having a strong mindset and how to overcome you deepest insecurities to improve your self confidence and become your best self.

Whitney’s Backstory:

Whitney was naturally gifted. She started doing gymnastics and soccer by the time she was four. That's the only thing that she knew and she loved competing. She loves trying new things and doing pretty well at it.

Pageantry was a complete out of the box for Whitney because growing up, she used to be a tomboy playing sports with the boys in the neighborhood and keeping up with her brothers.

She was at the age of 15 when she started competing in a pageant. On that same day, she also had a surfing contest. She showed up to rehearsals, all sunburned, clearly not taking the pageant seriously at all. But she went into it and was just trying to see what it was like. And that’s what her mindset was.

Her parents always told her, “Whitney always does what she wants to do, like we can tell her to do one thing, but she's going to try to figure it out on her own.”

Whitney’s strong mindset

She ended up winning the pageant and that's when she started to understand the pageant industry.

When I'm 15 years old, she had a very naturally athletic body, which is great for sports, but not great for pageants, particularly back then.

According to Whitney, 15 or 16 years ago, having abs and arms wasn't really considered sexy or feminine on a woman. And so I was constantly told, “You need to be softer. You need to get rid of some of your muscle. You need to not work out so much.”

Her main secret is that she wouldn't let anyone say what she should do, or how she should be. She’s going t o just be authentically herself.

Again, she ended up winning Miss Texas, and winning the swimsuit, which is really interesting, because she still had my very athletic body. So she won swimsuit, went to Miss Texas. And when she went to Miss United States, she kept the same mindset.

How Whitney handles her insecurities:

For Whitney, people just need to understand that insecurities are just part of our lives. And insecurities exist to teach us.

Whitney always tries to see how she can transform her insecurity into something that can be one of her greatest teachers, that can actually lead to a life that she really wants to live.

The Momentum

We make a choice and we get a little bit more momentum. We keep going until we start to just feel that way and we're gonna mess up. We're human, we're not always going to be perfect and stay on that course.

By gaining that momentum, we gain confidence, because we start to trust ourselves that we're making the right decisions for ourselves.

Tune in to this episode to know more about Whitney’s journey and life lessons that she will be sharing!

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