Gay Men Going Deeper

Why Can’t I Stay Hard? Diving into the Psychology of Erectile Dysfunction

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In this episode, Matt speaks with men’s coach Shay Doran about the psychology and mindset of erectile dysfunction. Did you know that some research indicates that gay men experience a higher rate of erection problems compared to straight men? This episode unpacks the reasons gay men experience erection problems and how to overcome them. If you struggle with erection issues or performance anxiety and feel ashamed and alone, then this episode can help you feel less alone and see a way out of the suffering.

The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:

  • How do erection challenges show up?
  • What are the three main unique factors in how it shows up for gay men?
  • How does sexual performance anxiety come into play?
  • How does perfectionism play a role in ED? 
  • The cycle of shame and secrecy caused by negative feedback loops
  • How demisexuality plays a role in ED
  • Exploring solutions to ED

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      • Sexual Performance Anxiety and Erectile Dysfunction
      • Research - Study published in the National Library of Medicine
      • Research - Study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine

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