Hey teacher friend, today we’re talking about a phrase we’ve all used: “challenging behavior.”
You know those moments when a student shouts out, refuses to transition, or throws their work on the floor… and we sigh, “They’re having some challenging behavior today.”

But here’s the truth: the behavior isn’t what’s challenging, the situation is challenging for the student.

In this episode, I’m unpacking why that phrase doesn’t sit right anymore, what it really communicates, and how shifting our language changes everything.

Why “challenging behavior” focuses on our struggle, not the child’s experience

How behavior is actually communication, not defiance

The harm of labeling kids as “difficult” or “naughty”

Simple mindset shifts like: “He’s having a hard time communicating,” not “He’s being challenging.”

Every time you see what looks like challenging behavior, remind yourself:

“This isn’t a challenge to me, it’s a message from them.”