What if AAC feels heavy in your classroom, not because you're doing it wrong — but because you've been carrying pressure that was never meant to be there?

In this episode, we reflect on what unfolded during AAC Bootcamp and explore the invisible weight educators, SLPs, and caregivers often carry when supporting AAC users. From second-guessing modeling to worrying about prompt dependency, progress monitoring, and team hesitation, this conversation gently reframes what AAC is actually meant to be.

AAC is not about performance. It is about exposure.

You'll hear real classroom examples of what modeling without expectation looked like in action, what shifted when adults removed pressure, and how teams began moving from urgency to presence.

This episode centers regulation, access, and sustainability — because support works best when it fits daily life.

In This Episode, You'll Learn

• • Why AAC often feels fragile or intimidating in school settings
• • The hidden performance pressure educators carry around communication
• • The difference between modeling for exposure and modeling for output
• • What modeling without expectation actually looks like in real routines
• • Why slow AAC growth is expected — and meaningful
• • How core boards increase language visibility across the classroom
• • What changes when devices become part of classroom culture
• • How to support paraprofessionals and team members in feeling confident with AAC
• • Why advocacy increases when educators feel clear and grounded
• • How shifting from outcomes to opportunities changes everything

Key Takeaways

• • AAC is not about performance — it is about exposure
• • Modeling without expectation reduces pressure and builds trust
• • Communication grows through consistent, low-pressure modeling
• • Slow progress does not mean ineffective support
• • When nervous systems are supported, learning becomes possible
• • Language should be visible and available across routines
• • Confidence across teams increases access for students
• • Culture shifts happen when adults align around shared understanding
• • Access reduces pressure

Try This

• • Choose one daily routine — snack, art, sensory bins, or transitions — and model one or two core words naturally without pausing for imitation
• • Place one core board in a high-use area to increase visual exposure
• • Share this phrase with your team: "We're modeling for exposure, not performance."
• • Focus on consistency over intensity

Related Resources & Links

Autism Little Learners Membership (includes full AAC Bootcamp replay): www.autismlittlelearners.com/pod

AAC Companion Pack

AAC Strategies: Building Buy-In to Help Teams Embrace AAC as a Child's Voice

Gestalt Language Processing & Music

Communication, Autism & AAC: Why AAC Is Not a Reward

AAC and Dysregulation: Why Kids Can't Use AAC When They're Dysregulated

When adults move from pressure to presence, classrooms feel safer. When we trust exposure, language grows. Connection is the foundation.

For years, autistic play has been misunderstood, redirected, or even discouraged. But what if the very things we've been trying to "fix" are actually authentic expressions of joy, regulation, and connection?

In this replay of my powerful conversation with nationally recognized pediatric SLP, speaker, and neurodiversity-affirming advocate Cari Ebert, we explore why autistic play is real play — and why honoring it changes everything.

Together, we unpack deep interests, regulation-first teaching, expanding play without pressure, and what it truly means to presume competence.

This episode will gently challenge old assumptions and give you practical, relationship-based strategies you can use right away.

• Why autistic children play differently — and why different doesn't mean wrong
• The difference between wide interests and deep interests
• How honoring deep interests builds meaningful connection and communication
• What "regulate, reach, teach" looks like in real classrooms and therapy sessions
• Why compliance-based approaches often lead to dysregulation
• How to expand play schemes without pressure or power struggles
• What it truly means to presume competence
• Why autistic joy deserves to be protected and celebrated

• Autistic play is authentic play
• Different does not mean deficient
• Connection builds communication
• Regulation must come before instruction
• Behavior is communication, especially during dysregulation
• Deep interests are powerful pathways to learning
• Presuming competence can unlock incredible potential
• Honor autistic joy

• Choose one child this week and intentionally shift your lens.
• Observe their deep interest without interrupting or redirecting
• Join their play through parallel play — without an agenda
• Model one small expansion (no pressure, no hand-over-hand)
• Adjust one environmental factor to support regulation
• Reframe one "behavior" by asking: What is the why behind this?
• Small shifts in perspective can create big shifts in connection.

• Cari Ebert's book: The Learning to Learn Program

• Download Cari's free handout: Autistic Play Is Authentic Play at: https://cariebert.com/freebie

• Get Tara's Play Stages Checklist here: https://autismlittlelearners.myflodesk.com/q76ntpgbge

You can find Cari at: www.cariebert.com

When we stop trying to fix autistic play and instead honor it, something powerful happens.

We see regulation increase. We see connection deepen. We see communication grow.

And most importantly — we protect autistic joy.

Autistic children become autistic adults. The way we respond to their play today shapes how they experience themselves tomorrow.

Let's honor their joy.

Winter often brings changes in schedules, energy levels, and tolerance — and when the world outside the classroom feels less predictable, nervous systems feel it. This episode focuses on supporting regulation and emotional safety when routines feel harder to maintain.

In this episode, we explore how disrupted routines, stress outside of school, and unpredictable changes can impact regulation for autistic children.

So often, these moments are framed as behavior issues or skill challenges. But when we shift toward regulation, predictability, and connection, we begin to see changes in:

• regulation

• engagement

• communication

• emotional safety

This conversation is grounded in real classrooms and real constraints, with practical strategies educators and caregivers can use right away.

In This Episode, You'll Learn

• Why regulation is the foundation for learning and communication

• How disrupted routines and outside stressors often show up in children's nervous systems first

• What co-regulation really means and why it comes before self-regulation

• How predictable routines reduce cognitive load and support emotional safety

• Practical classroom strategies using visuals, sensory supports, and calming sequences

• Why behavior is often communication rather than defiance or choice

Key Takeaways

• Regulation supports learning

• Predictability creates safety

• Co-regulation happens through presence, not pressure

• Access matters more than performance

• Small, consistent shifts matter more than perfection

• Support works best when it fits real classrooms

Try This

Choose one routine or moment this week to focus on.

• Start the day with connection before demands

• Use a visual schedule or change card to support predictability

• Model calm through your voice, body, and presence

• Try one co-regulation strategy consistently

• Notice regulation and engagement rather than output

You don't need to do everything at once for change to happen.

Related Resources & Links

• Calming Kit (visual regulation supports)

• Visual Schedules for Transitions

• Social Stories for Changes, Taking Breaks, and Sensory Support

• Mindfulness for Neurodivergent Learners (book referenced in the episode)

If supporting regulation during times of change feels challenging, you're not alone.

There are tools and supports designed to help you create predictability, safety, and connection in real classrooms, without adding pressure.

In this episode, we're talking about what truly changes when AAC is modeled all day—not just during instruction, but during play, routines, transitions, and real-life moments.

So often, AAC is treated as something that happens only at the table or during therapy. But when modeling AAC becomes part of the entire day, communication shifts from a task to a relationship.

This episode explores how modeling AAC without expectation builds regulation, engagement, trust, and spontaneous communication over time.

• What "all-day AAC modeling" actually means (and what it doesn't)

• Why modeling AAC throughout the day supports regulation and engagement

• How modeling without expectation reduces pressure for kids and adults

• Examples of AAC use during play, routines, and transitions

• Why AAC devices and core boards should be available beyond instruction

• How consistent modeling supports spontaneous communication

• Why relationships grow stronger when communication is modeled relationally

• Common reasons adults stop modeling AAC—and why consistency matters

• Modeling AAC all day means access across the entire day

• Communication grows through exposure, not pressure

• Modeling without expectation builds safety and trust

• AAC works best when it's part of daily life, not a special activity

• Choose one routine (snack, play, or transitions) and commit to modeling AAC there for a week

• Model on a core board or AAC device without prompting or expecting a response

• Notice engagement, connection, and regulation—not how many buttons are pressed

If you want to feel more confident using AAC beyond structured moments, you don't have to figure it out alone.

My AAC Bootcamp is designed to help educators and caregivers model AAC naturally across the entire day—during play, routines, and real-life moments—without pressure or perfection.

When AAC is modeled all day, communication stops being a task—and starts becoming a relationship.

• Visual Schedule Pictures Resource

• Visual Schedule Information

• Visual Schedules Made Easy Course

In this episode, we're unpacking a common—and harmful—myth in autism and AAC support: the idea that communication must be earned.

You'll hear why treating AAC as a reward makes regulation harder, not easier—and how unconditional access to communication supports regulation, trust, and participation, especially during autism meltdowns.

This episode reframes AAC as access, not a behavior strategy, and offers practical ways to support communication during real-life moments of distress.

• Why AAC should never be used as a reward

• How communication and regulation are deeply connected in autism

• What happens when AAC is removed during autism meltdowns

• Common autism meltdown causes related to communication breakdown

• Why withholding an AAC device can increase distress and shutdown

• How AAC supports self-advocacy and emotional safety

• What modeling AAC during dysregulation can look like (without pressure)

• How shifting adult mindset changes long-term outcomes

• Communication is a basic human right, not something children earn

• AAC supports regulation instead of waiting for it

• Withholding communication can increase meltdowns and reduce trust

• Modeling AAC without expectation builds safety and access

• Keep the AAC device available during moments of frustration or distress

• Model one regulation-related word (help, stop, or all done) without expecting a response

• Honor protests and communication attempts as meaningful

If you're realizing AAC has been used conditionally—or you're unsure how to support communication during hard moments—you're not alone.

My AAC Bootcamp is designed to help educators and caregivers confidently model AAC across the entire day, including transitions, play, and moments of dysregulation.

AAC doesn't need to be perfect to be powerful. When communication is always available, regulation becomes more possible—for everyone.

• AAC Bootcamp Registration

• AAC Devices In The Classroom

• AAC - Getting Team Buy In

In this episode, we're talking about the powerful connection between AAC and dysregulation—and why regulation is access to communication.

So often, AAC is treated as a skill kids are expected to use only when they're calm and regulated. But when a child is dysregulated, overwhelmed, or in survival mode, accessing any form of communication—spoken or AAC—is incredibly hard.

This episode reframes AAC as an access tool, not a reward, and explores what it really means to support communication during hard moments.

• Why AAC use often breaks down during dysregulation

• How the nervous system impacts access to communication

• Why "calm first, communication later" is a harmful myth

• How AAC can support regulation, not wait for it

• What happens when AAC is removed during meltdowns

• Why consistent AAC access builds trust and reduces frustration

• How to model AAC during dysregulation without pressure or expectation

• Simple shifts that make AAC more accessible across the day

• Dysregulation limits access to communication for all children

• AAC should be available during hard moments—not withheld

• Communication supports regulation; it's not something kids earn

• Modeling AAC without expectation builds trust and long-term access

• Keep AAC available during moments of dysregulation, even if it's not used

• Model one regulation-related word (like help, stop, or all done) without expecting a response

• Notice engagement and trust before output—communication grows from safety

If AAC has only been used during calm or structured moments, you're not alone. My AAC visuals and AAC Bootcamp are designed to help educators and caregivers confidently model AAC throughout the entire day—including transitions, play, and moments of dysregulation.

AAC doesn't require perfection. It requires access.

Links & Related Podcast Episodes

• AAC Bootcamp Registration

• AAC & Protests

• Getting Started With AAC

• Child Interest Survey - find what lights a child up!

In this special episode, Tara sits down with her friend and collaborator Sarah Habib from The Calm Caterpillar to share some exciting news—you're hearing it here first! Together, they've written a brand-new book, The Mindfulness Guide for Neurodivergent Learners, and this conversation takes you behind the scenes of how it came to life and why it's so needed.

This episode is a must-listen for educators, therapists, and parents who want practical, neurodiversity-affirming strategies to support regulation, transitions, and connection—without compliance-based approaches.

The Mindfulness Guide for Neurodivergent Learners is a 90-page, full-color, action-oriented guide designed to be:

• Easy to read and visually supportive

• Practical and immediately usable in classrooms and homes

• Grounded in neurodiversity-affirming, non-compliance-based practices

The book includes:

• Real classroom photos and examples

• Scripts you can actually use

• Visual supports and calming strategies

• QR codes for free downloadable resources

• Tools for co-regulation, not just "self-regulation"

• Ideas for supporting transitions, calm corners, sensory needs, and deep interests

• How the idea for the book started (spoiler: it began with a simple message ☺️)

• Why regulation is the foundation for learning, connection, and communication

• The importance of modeling regulation strategies as adults

• Why mindfulness strategies should be practiced in a regulated state

• How to move away from token boards and "earning" regulation tools

• Using deep interests (like favorite characters) to support transitions and engagement

• Real-life classroom examples that actually worked

• Why consistency across home, school, and childcare matters so much

• The difference between compliance-based approaches and compassionate, child-centered ones

This book isn't about quick fixes. It's about:

• Modeling

• Consistency

• Trust

• And honoring how neurodivergent learners experience the world

As Tara and Sarah emphasize, slow burns are okay—real change takes time, repetition, and relationship.

Podcast listeners get 15% off the book!

👉 Buy the book here or go to www.autismlittlelearners.com/all15 🧾 Use code: ALL15

Feel free to share this episode with colleagues, family members, childcare providers, or anyone who supports neurodivergent learners.

Watch this episode on YouTube here to see everything Tara & Sarah are talking about!

https://youtu.be/kh9FxP9YRxM?si=hGIBq-moWwC5X3df

• Website: www.thecalmcaterpillar.com

• Instagram: @thecalmcaterpillar

Be sure to check out Sarah's regulation tools mentioned in the episode, including Bloomie, Flutter, and Rory, which are being used in classrooms around the world.

Learn more about Tara and her work at www.autismlittlelearners.com Follow along on Instagram at @autismlittlelearners

Be sure to explore Tara's neurodiversity-affirming resources, trainings, and classroom-ready supports designed to help educators and caregivers feel confident supporting young autistic and neurodivergent learners.

This episode is a celebration—of collaboration, shared values, and a resource created with deep care for neurodivergent learners and the adults who support them. As Tara says, regulation is the foundation—and this book is a powerful place to start.

Today we're talking about one of my favorite tools for supporting autistic preschoolers — visual schedules. These simple supports can make transitions smoother, reduce anxiety, and help kids feel safe and confident as they move through their day. I'll share a quick story from the classroom and break down why visual schedules work so well, especially for our autistic little learners.

Show notes:

● Why visual schedules are one of the most effective supports for autistic preschoolers

● A real classroom story about a child who struggled with transitions until a one-picture schedule changed everything

● How visual schedules create predictability and reduce anxiety

● Why spoken language disappears — and visuals don't

● The connection between regulation, safety, and understanding what's coming next

● How visual schedules increase independence without pressure

● Why challenging behaviors often decrease when routines become visible

● The different types of visual schedules used in early childhood

● Why starting with ONE picture is developmentally appropriate and often most effective

● Practical tips you can use tomorrow to make transitions smoother and more connected

● Visual Schedule Pictures Resource

● Visual Schedule Information

● Visual Schedules Made Easy Course

In this replay episode, I'm thrilled to bring back one of the most impactful conversations I've ever had on the podcast — my interview with Dr. Barry Prizant, world-renowned speech-language pathologist and author of the groundbreaking book Uniquely Human.

Our discussion gets to the heart of why the field of autism education is shifting away from compliance-based, behavior-focused models and toward approaches rooted in compassion, emotional regulation, and trusting relationships.

Dr. Prizant shares powerful insights about: ✨ understanding autistic behaviors as meaningful human responses ✨ how storytelling has shaped his work and shaped Uniquely Human ✨ why reflective practice is essential in our classrooms ✨ and how listening to autistic voices is helping reshape "what works" in autism education

We also dig into topics like echolalia, the SCERTS model, relationship-based intervention, non-speaking communication, and why honoring a child's intuition and individuality is more effective—and more humane—than rigid compliance.

This conversation left me feeling inspired, energized, and hopeful about where autism education is heading… and I know it will do the same for you.

Bio

Barry M. Prizant, PhD, CCC-SLP is recognized as among the world's leading scholars on autism and as an innovator of respectful, person- and family-centered approaches. He is Director of Childhood Communication Services, Adjunct Professor of Communicative Disorders at the University of Rhode Island, and has fifty years of experience as an international consultant and researcher. Barry has published five books, 150 articles/chapters, and is co-author of The SCERTS Model, now being implemented internationally. He was a two-time featured presenter at the UN World Autism Awareness Day, with more than 1000 presentations internationally. Barry's book Uniquely Human: A Different Way of Seeing Autism (2022) is the best-selling book on autism since 2015, published in 26 languages and ranked by Book Authority as #1 of the "100 best books on autism of all time". Barry co-hosts a podcast, Uniquely Human: The Podcast, with his friend, Dave Finch, an autistic audio engineer.

Dr. Barry Prizant's Links:

Website: https://barryprizant.com/

Uniquely Human Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/uniquely-human-the-podcast/id1532460901

Uniquely Human Book: https://amzn.to/4e5VWZN

The Scerts Model Books: https://amzn.to/4kFpbF5

DRBI (Developmental Relationship-Based Intervention) Interview: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/uniquely-human-the-podcast/id1532460901?i=1000711834231

Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN): https://autisticadvocacy.org/

Amy Laurent Ted Talk "Compliance Is Not The Goal": https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_laurent_compliance_is_not_the_goal_letting_go_of_control_and_rethinking_support_for_autistic_individuals?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

Thinking Person's Guide To Autism: https://thinkingautismguide.com/

David Finch Website: https://davidjfinch.com/

Ros Blackburn & Sigourney Weaver Interview: https://uniquelyhuman.com/2021/04/23/logically-illogical-an-interview-with-ros-blackburn-with-special-guest-sigourney-weaver/

Takeaways

• Dr. Barry Prizant brings decades of expertise in speech-language pathology, psycholinguistics, and autism advocacy — grounded in human connection, not behavior control.

• Uniquely Human was written to change the narrative around autism by sharing stories that center humanity, not deficits.

• Autistic behaviors are human responses, not symptoms to extinguish — and understanding the "why" leads to more effective and compassionate support.

• Emotional regulation and relationships matter more than compliance; kids cooperate when they feel safe, supported, and understood.

• The shift toward neurodiversity-affirming practice requires reflective practice and humility from professionals — especially when something isn't working.

• Evidence-based practice is broader than peer-reviewed research. It also includes family insight, lived experience, and data from everyday interactions.

• Parents' intuition matters, and professionals should never ask families to ignore what feels right for their child.

• Compliance-focused approaches often overlook emotional development, social connection, and the child's authentic voice.

• True support begins with trust, co-regulation, and being a calming presence when a child is overwhelmed.

• Listening to autistic voices is essential for shaping ethical and effective educational practices.

• Meaningful progress happens through everyday activities, strengths, and interests, not isolated drills.

• The field is moving toward relationship-based, developmental models (like SCERTS)—and that gives real hope for the future.

You may also be interested in these supports

1. Visual Support Starter Set

2. Visual Supports Facebook Group

3. Autism Little Learners on Instagram

4. Autism Little Learners on Facebook

This episode is back as a replay because the conversation is still incredibly relevant—and the questions around PECS and AAC haven't gone away.

In this episode, we take a thoughtful, nuanced look at the Picture Exchange Communication System (PECS) and its role in supporting autistic communication. While PECS has been widely used for decades, growing research, lived experience, and neurodiversity-affirming practice are prompting professionals to ask deeper questions about autonomy, flexibility, and what true communication really looks like.

I'm joined by speech-language pathologists Paulina Elias and Dr. Amanda Blackwell from Natural Communication for a powerful discussion about how PECS originated, what it does well, and where it can fall short—especially when communication is limited to requesting or tightly controlled exchanges.

We explore why many clinicians are shifting toward multimodal, child-led AAC approaches that support regulation, self-expression, and authentic connection. You'll hear us unpack topics like honoring a child's right to say "no," moving away from hand-over-hand prompting, and choosing communication tools that grow alongside a child rather than restricting them.

Whether you're a parent, educator, or therapist, this replay episode offers updated perspectives that may challenge old assumptions—and help you feel more confident in supporting communication that is respectful, functional, and truly empowering.

🎥 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Tu4rKeAM0dc

📖 Read the blog here: https://autismlittlelearners.com/pecs-autism/

• PECS was developed in the 1980s as a structured system rooted in behavior-based principles and primarily supports requesting.

• Communication is more than asking for wants—autistic children deserve access to tools that support commenting, protesting, refusing, and expressing feelings.

• Rigid communication systems can unintentionally limit autonomy and authentic self-expression.

• Hand-over-hand prompting raises concerns about consent and agency; hand-under-hand support allows for greater learner control.

• AAC should be multimodal, flexible, and adaptable to a child's evolving communication needs.

• Children must have the freedom to say "no" and communicate disagreement in order for communication to be meaningful.

• Relationship, trust, and emotional safety are foundational to successful communication development.

• Communication tools should grow with the child rather than requiring a complete "switch" later on.

• Neurodiversity-affirming AAC honors individuality, regulation needs, and multiple communication styles.

• Family insight and lived experience are critical pieces of evidence-based practice.

• Access to AAC resources in multiple languages increases equity and meaningful participation for families.

• The field is moving away from rigid systems toward child-led, respectful, and empowering communication supports—and that shift matters.

You may also be interested in these supports:

1. Visual Support Starter Set

2. Visual Supports Facebook Group

3. Autism Little Learners on Instagram

4. Autism Little Learners on Facebook