J&J are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they’re joined by podcaster and meme queen Violet Benson. They start with a conversation about why Violet doesn’t sleep with anyone unless they’re in a relationship and how she frames that conversation to keep the ball in her court. Later, an emailer writes in to ask what to do after snooping on her boyfriend’s phone and finding suspicious messages with a woman on Instagram. Should she feel guilty about reading his DMs? Is he on the verge of ending the relationship anyway? Plus, Jared, Jordana, and Violet break down the best way to confront him about what she saw.

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