Sex can either be healing or cause further trauma in a relationship. 

Sex isn't just a physical act, but it's the spiritual, mental and emotional connection that's involved within a relationship. But that can be absolutely destroyed when it comes to a relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies.

No shame - only openness and compassion here. Let's delve into the 10 top problems experienced in sex with a narcissist.

1. Sex entitlement - This brings the issue of 'consensual' vs 'wanted' sex - and you get pushed into saying yes to at least avoid other problems like criticism, rejection or infidelity.

2. Hypersensitivity to criticism - rejecting any form of feedback, and it can be a slippery slope into being gaslit.

3. Lack of empathy and forming emotional connection during an act so vulnerable.

4. Expectation of extreme praise and admiration (again, potential to gaslight)

5. Withholding sex as a form of punishment, rejection and shaming.

6. Sexual exploitation as a tool for manipulation and 'transaction'.

7. Sexual aggression - its a 'consentual' form of punishment which enforces the power imbalance.

8. Infidelity and social humiliation

9. Openly speaking about the bedroom with others to compare and contrast sexual experiences - forcing you to 'perform more and better' (sex becomes a performance, not an act of intimacy).

10. Gaslighting and sexual creation, creating a whole heap of shame if you're not playing ball.

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