Writing Your Resilience: Building Resilience, Embracing Trauma and Healing Through Writing

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What does it really take to get into a state of creative flow and what pulls us out of it? In this Editor's Round Table episode, I’m joined by fellow editors Sarah Chauncey and Lynn Shattuck to explore the Law of Increasing Flow: a framework built on presence, strategic rest, and stopping before you hit empty. Together we dig into the problem of tech distraction, the power of the subconscious mind, and why percolation–not pushing–is where so much of the real writing happens. If you've ever wondered why flow feels so elusive, this episode will leave you with both the insight and the practical tools to invite more of it into your life.

Resources for this Episode: 

• “The Critic, Cookies and a (Cautionary) Colonoscopy” by Lynn Shattuck
• “To Write More, Better and Faster, Do This One Thing” by Sarah Chauncey
• Creative Intuition: The Skill That Makes Life and Work Easier
• It’s not Your Money by Tosha Silver
• The Walk for Peace
• Get Your Free Human Design Report
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now

Episode Highlights

• 4:54 Constricted Writing Stories
• 6:19 Law Of Increasing Flow
• 8:46 Productivity Versus Creativity
• 23:35 Nervous System Practices

Connect with Lynn: 

• Website: www.lossofalifetime.com
• Website: www.lynnlshattuck.com 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064888772287
• Instagram: @lynn_shattuck

Connect with Sarah: 

• Substack: https://sarahchauncey.substack.com/
• Counterintuitive Guide: https://counterintuitiveguide.substack.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahkchauncey/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarah.k.chauncey

Lynn Shattuck writes on topics like grief, parenting, and mental health. She was a columnist at Elephant Journal for ten years, where several of her essays on the topic of grief and sibling loss, and parenting went viral. Lynn co-founded the website lossofalifetime.com, a hub of resources and community for those who’ve experienced sibling loss. She co-edited the essay collection, The Loss of a Lifetime: Grieving Siblings Share Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope, which was released in June 2025.

Sarah Chauncey is a nonfiction writer, developmental editor, and writing coach. Over her decades of experience, she’s written more than 100 articles for a variety of outlets, including Writer's Digest, Jane Friedman, Tiny Buddha, Lion’s Roar, and Modern Loss. Sarah is the author of P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna, the first gift book for adults grieving the loss of a pet. She also writes the Substacks “Resonant Storytelling” for writers and “The Counterintuitive Guide to Life,” about developing inner skills for a shifting planet. 

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About this episode: Have you ever come to a point in your life where giving up was the way forward? If so, how was that different from defeat?  In this episode, I unpack what healthy surrender really means, how it can actually strengthen rather than diminish your sovereignty, and how to practice it in both the big and small moments of your life. If the word "surrender" has ever felt triggering or like defeat, this episode will change the way you see it.

Resources for this Episode: 

• Healing Ancestral Trauma: How Family Constellations Free You from Inherited Stories
• Get Your Free Human Design Report 
• Register for Find and Refine Your Memoir’s Narrative Arc
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now 

Episode Highlights

• 00:00 Surrender Is Not Giving Up
• 01:58 What It Really Means to Surrender
• 17:10 A Daily Practice of Letting Go
• 23:46 Holding Boundaries with Compassion

Lisa’s Bio: Lisa Cooper Ellison is an author, speaker, trauma-informed writing coach, and host of the Writing Your Resilience podcast. Working at the powerful intersection of storytelling and healing, she blends her writing expertise, clinical training, and soul-centered practices—including Akashic Records work and Human Design—to help writers turn their hardest experiences into art. Her essays—on sibling loss, grief, trauma healing, and the craft of writing—have appeared in The New York Times, HuffPost, and The Loss of a Lifetime: Grieving Siblings Share Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope, among others.

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About this episode: This week, I’m joined by Jeannine Ouellette, author of The Part that Burns and a writing instructor whose deepest passion is using writing to connect us with our humanity. She sees the craft of writing as so much more than the words on the page, and I couldn’t agree more. We talk about how writing is a practice that helps you show up more fully in your own life, and how you can do this by finding your writing voice, writing close to the lived experience, and exploring from a place of discomfort. And you won’t want to miss our conversation about our shared obsession with a particular punctuation mark that we are absolutely claiming regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Resources for this Episode: 

• Voice First: A Writer’s Manifesto by Sonya Huber
• Acetylene Torch Songs by Sue William Silverman
• Innocence & Experience: Voice in Creative Nonfiction by Sue William Silverman
• Finding Your Voice and Crafting Stories that Ignite the Soul with Sue William Silverman
• Writing Hard Stories: Celebrated Memoirists Who Shaped Art from Trauma
• “The Fourth State of Matter” by Jo Ann Beard
• Get Your Free Human Design Report 
• Register for Find and Refine Your Memoir’s Narrative Arc
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now 

Episode Highlights

• 00:00 The Question That Opens Everything
• 04:33 On Voice (and Finding Yours)
• 15:27 Writing as a Living Practice
• 29:33 The Quiet Work of Finding Joy Again
• 32:57 Craft as a Way of Being

Jeannine’s Bio: Jeannine Ouellette’s lyric memoir, The Part That Burns, was a Kirkus Best Indie Book and a finalist for the Next Generation Indie Book Award in Women’s Literature. Her other books include Mama Moon and The Good Caregiver with Robert Kane, M.D. Her essays and short fiction have appeared widely in journals and anthologies, including Narrative, North American Review, Los Angeles Review of Books, Masters Review and more. Her bestselling Substack, Writing in the Dark, explores writing as a metaphor for life and attention as a pathway to becoming. She teaches writing at the Minnesota Prison Writing Workshop and the University of Minnesota and her craft book, One Word at a Time: A Creative Practice for Transforming Your Writing and Your Life, is forthcoming from Penguin.

Connect with Jeannine: 

• Substack: https://writinginthedark.substack.com/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeannine.ouellette.7
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msjeannineouellette/?hl=en

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In this Ask Me Anything session, writer and advocate Meagan Justus brings two questions that so many writers are quietly wrestling with. 1st: when you keep circling the core of your story without being able to reach it, do you shape what you have or keep writing until you get there? And 2nd: when your story involves people or institutions with power, how do you protect yourself while still telling the truth? 

Together, we dig into why writers circle their stories, how changing names doesn't protect you legally, what the vetting process actually looks like, and what the unfolding controversy around Amy Griffin's memoir The Tell can teach us about the publishing process. 

Resources:

• The "but/therefore" principle
• The Queen’s Path
• The Beat Sheet 
• Another Bullshit Night in Suck City by Nick Flynn
• Some Ether by Nick Flynn
• The Ticking Is the Bomb by Nick Flynn
• The Liar's Club by Mary Karr
• Cherry by Mary Karr
• Lit by Mary Karr 
• https://authorsguild.org/
• How Can I Avoid Lawsuits When Writing Memoir?
• Legal Vetting for Manuscripts to Manage Risk
• The Billionaire, The Psychedelics, and the Bestselling Memoir by Katherine Rosman & Elisabeth Egan
• Lawsuit Accuses Writer of Using Classmate’s Story in Best-Selling Memoir by Katherine Rosman & Elisabeth Egan
• Examples of Hermit Crab Essays  
• Get Your Free Human Design Report 
• Find and Refine Your Memoir’s Narrative Arc
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now 

Connect with Meagan: 

• https://www.creativelyvisible.com/
• https://substack.com/@creativelyvisible

Meagan Justus is a writer and advocate exploring the messy middle of chronic illness, disability, and trauma. Through essays and storytelling, she works to make invisible struggles visible and a little less lonely. Her writing blends honesty, humor, and the occasional chocolate metaphor to explore resilience, self-advocacy, and the stories we discover while living through life’s hardest chapters.

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What if the stories we tell about ourselves aren't really ours,  and what if we could finally trace them back to where they began? This is something I’ve been asking myself for years, and today I’m excited to share a few ways you can answer those questions for yourself through Family Constellations work. This week’s guest, Tania Gonzalez-Ortega, is a Family Constellations practitioner with twenty-five years of experience in energy work. During our conversation, we explore the benefits and challenges of the dark night of the soul, how some of what we experience during the dark night isn’t ours, and how we can work with those connections in ways that allow us to live our fullest, most empowered lives.

Episode Highlights

• 07:31 The Lessons Inside the Dark Night
• 11:37 The Trauma That Was Never Yours
• 17:16 What Happens in a Constellation Session
• 22:43 When Writing Becomes Healing
• 28:25 The Ripple Effect of Healing Your Lineage

Resources from this Episode: 

• Story Alchemy with Lisa Cooper Ellison on the New Earth Consciousness Podcast
• Waldorf Education Model
• What is Family Constellations Therapy
• The Dark Night of the Soul, poem by St. John of the Cross
• Dark Night of the Soul by St. John of the Cross
• Get Your Free Human Design Report 
• Sign up for Find and Refine Your Memoir’s Narrative Arc
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now 

Tania’s Bio: Tania Gonzalez-Ortega has been practicing energy work for over 25 years. Her background spans ancestral healing, nervous system regulation, and deep emotional integration. She’s studied in India and the United States and guided hundreds of clients through profound personal transformation. Tania is also a financial educator who helps women and families build real wealth in a balanced, ethical way. Her work bridges two worlds most people keep separate: Inner transformation and financial structure. Yet true sovereignty requires both. She lives in the mountains of Washington State with her husband and son on 64 acres of land that constantly reminds her that stability and growth can coexist.

Connect with Tania: 

• Facebook: facebook.com/taniamama
• Instagram: instagram.com/@newearthconsciousness
• YouTube: youtube.com/@newearthconsciousness

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What if the key to unlocking your creativity wasn't about doing more but about finally understanding who you are? In this episode, trauma therapist Jessica Eure and I explore how Human Design is transforming the way we work, create, and heal. From decoding your body graph to learning why you say yes when you mean no, this conversation is a masterclass in radical self-acceptance. Whether you are a trauma survivor trying to reclaim your creative life or a writer searching for more energy and focus, this episode will give you a new map for understanding yourself as well as the practical tools to use it.

Episode Highlights

• 00:00 Why Human Design Isn’t What You Think
• 05:10 The Moment You Start Trusting Yourself Again
• 16:45 Where You’re Still Operating from Conditioning
• 21:52 How Human Design Changes Your Relationships

Resources for this Episode:

• Toward a postmaterialist psychology: Theory, research, and applications
• Neurofeedback
• Get Your Free Human Design Report 
• Register for Find and Refine Your Memoir’s Narrative Arc
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now 

Connect with Jessica: 

Websites: 

• www.jessicaeure.com
• www.virginianeurofeedback.com

Email: [email protected]

Jessica’s Bio: Jessica Eure is a mental health counselor and educator working at the intersection of nervous system repair and consciousness. She is the co-founder of Virginia Center for Neurofeedback, where she integrates QEEG-guided neurofeedback and trauma-informed psychotherapeutic approaches to support regulation, resilience, and deep healing. Alongside her clinical work, Jessica has spent 25+ years studying reiki, chakra systems, tarot, astrology, contemplative traditions, and more recently, Human Design, weaving these frameworks into her understanding of identity, purpose, and personal transformation.

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Resources for this Episode: 

• Get Your Free Human Design Report 
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now 

Do you feel aligned, or are you burning out? It’s a question we must ask ourselves repeatedly during the year of the fire horse. In today’s episode I share the simple Human Design tool you already have at your disposal that can help you stay in alignment as you live your life’s purpose whether you’re wrestling with the big issues or daily decisions. 

Episode Highlights

• 02:00 The “Am I On Track?” Question
• 04:30 Why Alignment Prevents Burnout
• 06:30 Using Emotions as Your Compass
• 11:00 My People-Pleasing Pattern (Real Story)
• 19:10 Satisfaction vs. Excitement (What Actually Matters)

Lisa’s Bio: Lisa Cooper Ellison is an author, speaker, trauma-informed writing coach, and host of the Writing Your Resilience podcast. Working at the powerful intersection of storytelling and healing, she blends her writing expertise, clinical training, and soul-centered practices—including Akashic Records work and Human Design—to help writers turn their hardest experiences into art. Her essays—on sibling loss, grief, trauma healing, and the craft of writing—have appeared in The New York Times, HuffPost, and The Loss of a Lifetime: Grieving Siblings Share Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope, among others.

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What if the condition that made your life unmanageable was also the source of your greatest gifts? In this episode, I sit down with Atash Yaghmaian, a therapist, activist, and author of My Name Means Fire, to explore how writing became the bridge between her many parts, her trauma, and ultimately her freedom. Atash lives with dissociative identity disorder (DID), and shares what that means: not as something to be feared, but as a brilliant survival mechanism that carried her through war, revolution, and abuse in her native Iran. We explore the power of writing from your parts, how reading can be an act of solidarity, and why inner harmony makes you a better human, writer, and friend to the world.

Episode Chapters

• 03:02 Coming Out With Dissociative Identity Disorder
• 11:10 Writing a Memoir With Multiple Voices
• 21:25 From the Iranian Revolution to Finding Freedom
• 37:09 Healing the Inner Child Through Writing
• 42:14 DID as Protection, Healing, and Activism

Resources for this Episode: 

• Books to Read on Iran
• A Different Side of the Self: On Finding Freedom By Telling My Story in English by Atash Yaghmaian
• Find and Refine Your Memoir’s Narrative Arc
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now 

Atash’s Bio:  Atash Yaghmaian is the author of “My Name Means Fire.” She is a writer and a psychotherapist whose stories and articles about mental health and Iran have appeared in LitHub, Ms. Magazine, The New York Daily News, The Mighty, and Thrive Global, among others. Born in Tehran, Atash migrated to the United States alone at the age of 19, fleeing war, trauma, and abuse. She blogs at atashyaghmaian.com.

Connect with Atash: 

• Website: www.atashyaghmaian.com
• Instagram: @ayhealing
• YouTube: @AtashYaghmaian

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Would you like to know when to say yes or no, how to tell which piece of feedback is right for you or your book, or how to proceed with greater ease? If you’re working on a book, would you like to spend more time having your characters tell you what to write and less time trying to figure it out? Find out how your intuition can do all of these things and how connecting with it is easier than you think. 

Episode Highlights

• 01:42 The Voice You Keep Ignoring
• 02:57 What Intuition Actually Is (and Isn’t)
• 05:27 That Quiet Whisper You Can’t Shake
• 07:12 Gut Feeling or Fear? How to Tell
• 11:32 Get Out of Your Head, Into Your Body
• 15:27 Stop Forcing It, Let Answers Come
• 17:10 Journaling That Builds Self-Trust
• 18:53 The Dream That Changed Everything
• 22:16 Signs… or Coincidence?
• 25:36 Test Your Intuition Today
• 27:46 Follow What Feels Alive
• 30:19 A Practice to Come Back to Yourself

Resources for this Episode: 

• Intuition 101: Developing Your Clairsenses
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now 

Lisa’s Bio: Lisa Cooper Ellison is an author, speaker, trauma-informed writing coach, and host of the Writing Your Resilience podcast. Working at the powerful intersection of storytelling and healing, she blends her writing expertise, clinical training, and soul-centered practices—including Akashic Records work and Human Design—to help writers turn their hardest experiences into art. Her essays—on sibling loss, grief, trauma healing, and the craft of writing—have appeared in The New York Times, HuffPost, and The Loss of a Lifetime: Grieving Siblings Share Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope, among others.

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How do you keep the faith when your nervous system is fried, your heart is tired, and the world feels like too much? In this editors’ roundtable episode, I’m  joined by Kristin Sancken and Lynn Shattuck for an honest conversation about what actually helps when times are tough. Together, they share personal stories of losing faith in creative projects, the hidden cost of valuing product over process, and the gentle, sustainable strategies they use to care for themselves during hard seasons. This episode explores how to honor the season you’re in, lean into community, and choose care in a culture that tells us to go it alone.

Episode Highlights

• 01:57 When It All Falls Apart: The “Empire Strikes Back” Season
• 03:54 Kristen’s Season of Care and Surrender
• 05:56 When the Story Goes Quiet: Lynn’s Memoir Pause
• 07:47 Lisa’s Dark Night of the Soul
• 12:36 Holding Onto Faith When It Feels Slippery
• 13:30 The Power of DadderDays
• 25:24 How Laying an Egg Can Return You To Your Body
• 27:31 Trusting the Cycles We’re In
• 31:36 Journal Prompts + Voices from the Community

Resources for this Episode:

• Functional Anatomy of the Female Perineum
• Can You Trust Your Memories? What Neuroscience Reveals About Trauma, Story & Healing |Stacey Simmons
• Ditch Your Inner Critic Now

Kristin’s Bio: Kristin Thomas Sancken was born in Panama, raised in Mexico, and came of age in Minnesota before settling in Charlottesville, Virginia, where she lives with her husband, two children, and an exuberant Golden Retriever. Her writing has earned numerous awards and appeared in publications including The Guardian, HuffPost, and Columbia Journal. You can find more of her writing at her Substack, Sanctuary of the Holy Others.

Lynn’s Bio: Lynn Shattuck writes on topics like grief, parenting and mental health. She was a columnist at Elephant Journal for ten years, where several of her essays on the topic of grief and sibling loss and parenting went viral. Lynn co-founded the website lossofalifetime.com, a hub of resources and community for those who’ve experienced sibling loss. She co-edited the essay collection, The Loss of a Lifetime: Grieving Siblings Share Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope, which was released in June of 2025.

Connect with Kristin:

• Website: http://www.sancken.com/
• Instagram: @ktsancken_writer
• Threads: @ktsancken_writer

Connect with Lynn: 

• Website: www.lossofalifetime.com
• Website: www.lynnlshattuck.com 
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064888772287
• Instagram: @lynn_shattuck

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