Soaking is the practice of placing the penis in the vagina but not moving, presumably to enjoy intimacy with a partner but without violating religious strictures against premarital sex. We discuss a couple who soaked while watching a movie, but then the situation got too intense and progressed from the figurative to the literal.

Keith attended some sort of Ketamine-fueled San Francisco Eyes Wide Shut party, complete with a naked hot tub. His claim was his eyes were focused on the view of the bridge and the bay. That's not what I would have been looking at.

Mike only likes submissive eye contact, not the kind that searches for a true interpersonal connection. Seems normal.

And we investigate the details of a camgirl's menu. Frankly, she's missing the point. Camgirls need to take charge and show a real interest in the proceedings. Just the presence of a menu suggests a passive, somewhat uninterested role. That's not what men want when they're hunting for online sex.

To check out the menu discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/108/menu

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/108/toys

https://ymmv.me/108/g-spot

https://ymmv.me/108/eye-contact

https://ymmv.me/108/soaking

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I wanted to start off by saying that we haven't done any original research into this question of whether dentists can easily discern which people have recently given oral sex to a man. But it seems plausible, and assuming it's true, it's a pretty funny situation.

It's usually the woman who has to work around men not being able to "go the distance" during sex, but what if the gender roles were reversed? How would a man tolerate a situation where the woman orgasmed very quickly and then lost all interest in sex?

What is the right level of pregnancy protection? Especially if the partners trust each other? And, if they don't trust each other, does each partner need a form of protection that he or she controls?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/107/bad-sex

https://ymmv.me/107/rough

https://ymmv.me/107/protection

https://ymmv.me/107/thrusting

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This week I interviewed Stephanie Sellars who both wrote and appeared in the movie Lust Life Love, about the experiences of people in the polyamorous lifestyle. I enjoyed the movie thoroughly, watched it twice and took notes.

Without giving too much away, some things I wondered about were the prevalence of MFF versus MMF situations in poly arrangements. How important are ground rules, and is poly a lifestyle choice that can work long-term.

The film depicts a polyamorous club/party scene which frankly surprised me. I always imagine such situations as mostly dominated by men looking for hookups or partners, but I learned that the film is based heavily in reality.

As often happens with these subjects, I found myself wondering what's in it for each person. I get that the most obvious thing straight man gets out of polyamory is multiple partners. But what about other folks, and is that really the main reason a straight man would do it? And, is polyamory a lifestyle or something you're born wanting to do?

For more information about the film, to watch the film, or for more information about Stephanie, here are some links:

https://ymmv.me/106/movie

https://ymmv.me/106/stephanie

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Going through Aella's "scientific" studies is a pretty interesting exercise, so I decided to dedicate part of this episode to her findings. She uncovers data about fetishes, the definition of rape, political and gender differences.

Down to the nitty gritty, a man is trying to figure out if his thrusting technique is sub-par, made more difficult by his issues with premature ejaculation. A couple men have issues giving oral sex to women. A woman wonders whether she really is too pretty to give a good blowjob.

And, is it compelling at all to women when men "slap" their vulvae, either with their hand or their penis?

Here are links to Aella's scientific work:

https://ymmv.me/105/fetishes-1

https://ymmv.me/105/fetishes-2

https://ymmv.me/105/autogynephilia

https://ymmv.me/105/rape

To see Uncle T's most recent episode, here's a link:

https://ymmv.me/105/uncle-t

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/105/frustration

https://ymmv.me/105/oral-1

https://ymmv.me/105/oral-2

https://ymmv.me/105/pretty

https://ymmv.me/105/rough

https://ymmv.me/105/dtf

https://ymmv.me/105/fantasy

https://ymmv.me/105/slap

https://ymmv.me/105/kiss

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I make it my mission to avoid talking about intimacy wherever possible. I prefer to focus instead on "hard-core porn," which I believe better aligns with the realities of life. But, as Britney Spears sang in her hit song, "From the Bottom of My Broken Heart": "You put a dart through my dreams, through my heart."

And so it is that we discussed at decent length the final destination of relationships where the sex stops. I would genuinely like to have better news for our listeners, but I'm afraid it's typically a sign things aren't going to get much better, and they'll likely get much worse.

We also discuss women's various challenges communicating to partners their intentions and desires. What if they just want cuddling and not sex? How is it even possible to communicate this to a partner? What if instead they want a real man's man; a real protector? Should they ask a man to rough them up in bed?

And what to do if a woman says no to a sexual encounter once, only to realize she really wants a relationship with the guy? How to recover the satellites?

Here is the masturbation device we discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/104/stroker

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/104/sexless

https://ymmv.me/104/do-whatever

https://ymmv.me/104/denied

https://ymmv.me/104/finishing

https://ymmv.me/104/initiation

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We discuss Keith's past and future in response to a listener email asking for more details. A woman wants to know whether she should continue seeing a man after he made pretty aggressive comments about her labia.

Another woman is concerned that her boyfriend's interest in semen, revealed while high, might be a dealbreaker. We discuss folks who fetishize finding pornographic content on Youtube. And, what are penises supposed to smell like?

Finally, As it's the beginning of the month of February, I asked ChatGPT to compose me an Ode To Stupidity, which it did. Here's an excerpt for your enjoyment:

Ode to Stupidity

Oh, Stupidity, you ever-present blight, Your presence taints us day and night. You bring us down and make us weak, Your power is a force to be reckoned with.

You crush our hopes and dreams, You make us doubt our worth and schemes. Your toxic presence makes us doubt our minds, Your power has no bounds or binds.

You spread like wildfire and consume all in your path, Your destruction is a sight to behold with wrath. You make us take the wrong paths, You make us think that our knowledge and skills are not enough.

Oh, Stupidity, you are truly the enemy of all, Your power binds us and makes us feel so small. But we must be strong and fight your might, And prove that we are smarter than your spite.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/103/smell

https://ymmv.me/103/labia

https://ymmv.me/103/semen

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It's hard when the most important event in your life is Reddit's decision to progressively shut down the subreddits where you find porn. I guess it's easier if you have tastes that are pretty standard. Hell, even foot fetishists get a lot of attention -- bizarrely, even on VR porn sites. But if you're someone who just likes reasonable people appearing to enjoy themselves, then you're pretty much SOL. And that's not even mentioning the weirdos who use /r/gonewildaudio and stare at the wall while listening.

Next topic: We debated what's going on when women complain that they're not able to locate sugar daddies. Not surprisingly, one side of the argument boils it all down to youth and attractiveness. The other side is something about strategy, I think.

If a man you're sleeping with excuses himself to the bathroom every time he orgasms, what is this indicating? And, should a woman be upset if, after a successful MFF threesome, she awakes to find her significant other engaged in coitus with the unicorn without even waking her?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/102/sugar

https://ymmv.me/102/bathroom

https://ymmv.me/102/mff

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What would cause a woman to detect a sudden change in the odor of her boyfriend or husband's penis? Absent a significant hygiene change, there only seem to be a few options.

What would motivate a sugar daddy to give his sugar baby her entire annual allowance up front in January? Is he setting himself up for a problem? What about her? Seems like a pretty serious problem for the relationship in general. Will she dump him, or stay as she claims?

Are aggressive fantasies an indication that there's something wrong with your personality and/or sex drive? Are there limits to acceptable fantasy topics? And, why would a female FWB start asking for "aftercare"?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/101/allowance

https://ymmv.me/101/lick

https://ymmv.me/101/fantasies

https://ymmv.me/101/grossed-out

https://ymmv.me/101/fwb

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In a nod to the ladies, we spend a considerable amount of time this episode discussing the experience of being "ghosted" after having sex with a man on the "third date." It seems like a painful but perhaps unavoidable experience. It also seems more likely to happen to someone the man doesn't want his friends to meet, or who is generally less attractive than his target demographic.

I was inclined to title this episode, "The Ghost in the Cumbox" -- but I realized that wouldn't really make much sense, as we didn't really even talk about cumboxes. We did, however, discuss a particular woman's disgust with her man's semen. Is it the semen, or is it him? (It's him)

We did not, however, discuss the fact that I got ChatGPT to write me a story about a woman somehow penetrating a man's penis during the act of sex. At first, I thought maybe it was talking about sounding, but then I realized it was just confused about how sex worked.

If you want to hide somewhere and give your girlfriend oral sex while she's at work in such a way that her coworkers don't notice, does that mean you're gay? And, if you're a woman and your female friend wants you to commit to repeated MFF threesomes with her and her boyfriend, what is really going on?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/100/threesome

https://ymmv.me/100/disgust

https://ymmv.me/100/hidden-oral

https://ymmv.me/100/doggystyle

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We conduct a review of some of the latest trends in porn watching, according to PornHub. Here's the full report if you're interested in reviewing it: https://ymmv.me/99/trends

Keith wonders if it would be easier or harder for him to find high-quality partners if he were gay. There's general agreement that finding partners would become easier, but quality is the key metric there.

What do men really mean when they announce that they're close? Is it generally possible for them to hold off? And do women actually care, or are they just looking for the experience to last longer to have more intimacy (i.e. more foreplay)?

Two men have female partners who want more dominance. And another didn't realize he and his girlfriend were having anal sex until she told him. Is this consensual?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/99/slow-down

https://ymmv.me/99/emasculated

https://ymmv.me/99/aggressive

https://ymmv.me/99/gay

https://ymmv.me/99/anal

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