“We don't have to feel shame about some of those ways that we react.”

–Heidi Fischbach

Stuck at 11 all the time? Overreactive? Think rest is a dirty word? This conversation about our nervous system  with nervous system coach Heidi Fischbach is for you. She helps people feel at home in their bodies and go from anxiety and overwhelm and shut down to authentic connection.

This is one of my favorite topics — one I’ve been working on myself for a while now — and I’m excited to help you get started or make a plan to move forward with nervous system work. Our nervous system connects our bodies, minds, and emotions — and impacts our relationships.

One of the things I love about nervous system resetting is that it doesn’t have to take years to undo something. As Heidi says, our bodies are good at being in the now. We can make a body-based shift that changes a lot.

We talk about: 

• Different states of our nervous system — and what happens when we get stuck in one
• Burnout and learning that rest isn’t a dirty word
• Defensiveness as a sign we don’t feel safe and why we need an embodied sense of safety
• What happens when you can’t trust your body
• Not making change, but making change possible
• Shifting from “what’s wrong with me” to friendly awareness

Bonus: Nervous System Exercise with Kelly Lubeck

We do regular nervous system regulation in FLOW365, and we’ve include an exercise with our teacher Kelly Lubeck.

ABOUT HEIDI

Heidi Fischbach is a nervous system coach and an award-winning (featured) speaker who has facilitated body-based transformation and healing for tens of hundreds of clients and students.

Heidi has developed a unique science-backed and body-based program to help her clients reset stress- and trauma-based patterns of coping so that they can feel safe and at home in their bodies and meaningfully connected to themselves and what matters to them.

Heidi brings decades of therapeutic massage and Focusing experience, which she combines with a Polyvagal Theory-informed understanding of the nervous system. As a result of Heidi’s Nervous System Reset Program, women are able to lay down new neural pathways which allow them to transform anxiety into calm and meaningful connection.

ABOUT KELLY

Kelly Lubeck, MPH, is passionate about changing the world for the better, through individual and community-level healing programs that inspire wellness, health and soul- centered, embodied leadership. Kelly guides changemakers and leaders to heal their individual nervous systems and release self- defeating patterns of self-sacrifice and overgiving in their work and relationships that lead to burnout, anxiety and illness. Kelly is currently a teacher in FLOW365.

LINKS

• https://heidifischbach.com/
• 5 Steps Back to Calm
• https://www.youtube.com/@Heidistable
• ReadySetPause Facebook group
• FLOW365

DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is where change happens.

Even though we want big change, it’s really little things done over and over that make the difference. So pick a doable thing. Put it in your calendar. Weave it through your days for a week and then move on to the next one. It will have a snowball effect.

Here are three Doable Changes from this conversation:

• RECOGNIZE WHEN YOU FEEL UNSAFE. Even when we can rationalize that we are safe, we don’t always feel safe. There are exercises you can do to help you feel more safe. For your first step, practice noticing when you feel unsafe. Some hints may be defensiveness, tension in different parts of your body, being overly calm, tamping down things you want to say.
• PRACTICE FRIENDLY AWARENESS. The next time you find yourself asking “What’s wrong with me?” practice friendly awareness. Notice what’s happening around you. Notice what’s happening in your body. Maybe ask yourself, “What’s wrong, honey?”
• RESET YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM. There are many ways to reset or regulate our nervous system. We do this work regularly in FLOW365, because it’s so important for health and also improves our productivity. Try the exercise Kelly shares. This isn’t a one and done practice. Schedule time to do it throughout the week.