Harrison Bly joins the show to discuss masculine friendship! Harrison is a member of our YOBBERS community and the author of Bent on Men, a book recently featured in our monthly YOBBERS Book Club. Both Tom and Harrison reference their books, sharing what happens after some pivotal friendships change, fizzle, or even disintegrate entirely after the final page. They discuss the friendship dynamics of connecting with straight men as well as fellow "Side B" men. What are the challenges or even road blocks to forming various male friendships? And what do we do with this loneliness epidemic which has hit men hard?

Where are the victories and struggles alike in befriending both queer and straight men? Have you read Harrison's book, Bent on Men, and do you have any takeaways from the male friendships he's written about?

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• Harrison Bly's book, Bent on Men

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• Tom's posts

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“Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Simon joins the show from faraway Britain as our first native UK YOBBER! He tells us about his life in Oxfordshire, including a cat and his very own "flat." Tom bonds with Simon over their shared experiences in Oxford, including the very same bedroom. Simon gives us a lovely list of Britishisms, including the definition of a "yob." He also shares some of his story with faith and sexuality, enlightening us about Side B life from a non-American country. We also have an exciting update on the European YOBBERS retreat taking place later this year!

Are you also from the UK, or do you have another non-American story to lend about faith/sexuality?

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• YOB ConvoCast 082: Tom & Daniel Pitch this Summer's First European YOBBERS Retreat!

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“Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Erin returns to discuss the development of Your Other Sisters, including our recently held coed Zoom call with Your Other Brothers! We recap our YOB and YOS call, including a critical icebreaker of our favorite condiments. We invite all who are interested in these YOB and YOS developments to join us! Man or woman, shoot us an email to learn more: contact[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com

For the rest of the episode, we discuss this current season of Lent in these weeks leading up to Easter. We share some of our spiritual upbringings, including our experience with, or without, Lent, as well as with fasting in general. What are our motivations for fasting, and how do we practice fasting in healthy, God-honoring ways? How can we take our relationships with God in this season of Lent and continue growing them on the other side of Easter Sunday?

Are you observing Lent this year, or what is God teaching you in this season before Easter? Have you practiced fasting as a spiritual discipline? What prevents you or guides your motivations in fasting?

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• Tom's Lent blog: "Do I Fast to Punish Myself or Meet with God?"

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“Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Our resident Enneagram Seven and unofficial international correspondent, Daniel, returns to pitch this summer's special gathering of YOBBERS -- in Europe! He joins Tom to discuss a smaller-scale retreat or "holiday" somewhere in the Mediterranean, inviting all who are interested to email him ASAP: daniel[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com

Daniel also catches us up on his life in London -- including the exciting news that he is now a British citizen! He tells us about one country where he's already traveled with his new passport, as well as another on the horizon to see a certain female pop star perform. Finally, we invite AI to listen in on our entire Zoom conversation and summarize the episode! It's...chillingly accurate.

➡️ Where else should YOB plan a future retreat? What theme should we explore for another YOB ConvoCast series this summer?

➡️ Daniel's Enneagram Seven ConvoCast

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/03/08/yob-convocast-082-tom-daniel-pitch-the-first-european-yobbers-retreat

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Daniel's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/daniel/

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➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

First-time guest Andrew joins Tom to discuss Netflix’s Heartstopper! It’s a queer coming-of-age show that many in our YOB community have enjoyed, though its depictions of queer romance could also be distracting for some (nothing sexual in the first two seasons, just lots of same-sex kissing). We discuss what we loved from the characters in romantic pairings to the loyal friendships that ultimately reinforce this show. We devote our remaining time to the show’s lone asexual character as two people in YOB who identify as asexual ourselves. What did we resonate with in this character, and where was the disconnect?

➡️ Have you seen Heartstopper? What did you enjoy about the show, or where did you find something lacking? If you also identify with asexuality, what did you make of the show's take with its asexual character?

➡️ Keegan's ConvoCast on bisexuality

➡️ Tom's ConvoCast on asexuality

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/02/23/yob-convocast-081-tom-andrew-review-heartstopper-and-discuss-asexuality

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

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➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Tom’s straight younger brother Andy returns for his yearly appearance on the podcast to educate us on this year’s Super Bowl matchup between the Chiefs and 49ers! Beyond merely giving us the players to look out for, Vegas’s odds for the winner of this game, and his own prediction, he also educates us on a truly shocking Taylor Swift lyric. We dive into all the T-Swift and Travis Kelce storylines, along with the often loud objections to their media coverage. Is toxic masculinity out of control?!

➡️ Who do you got in this year's Super Bowl? What are your thoughts on Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's media coverage?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/02/05/yob-convocast-080-tom-andy-talk-super-bowl-lviii-and-taylor-swift

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

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✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Alex is announced as our newest regular YOB contributor, and we get right into analyzing his blogs! We start with discussing a reflection of last fall’s YOBBERS retreat written by his mom and how this unique blog even came to be on our site. We also go behind the scenes and into greater depth with his recently posted blog about holding hands with his straight guy friends: one story in which a friend reached across a restaurant table to hold his hand, and another in which Alex extended his own hand toward a friend while walking with him in the park. How did fears of PDA impact both of these hand-holdings, and what other fears or insecurities did Alex wrestle with – both in the receiving and expressing of such open same-sex physical touch?

➡️ Have you held hands with a male friend, straight or otherwise, in a public setting? What fears and/or triumphs have you experienced in the realm of physical touch with other men?

➡️ Alex's 2023 retreat blog: "Renewing Hope and Forming a Liturgy for Brothers at the YOBBERS Retreat"

➡️ Alex's mom's 2023 retreat blog: "Impressions of the YOBBERS Retreat from the Heart of a Mom"

➡️ Alex's hand-holding blog: "The Healing Power of Holding Hands with Another Man"

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/01/26/yob-convocast-079-alex-holds-hands-with-his-straight-guy-friends

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Alex's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/alex/

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➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Matt returns for a second go on the podcast as we dive into Gen Z fashion trends! Have the '80s and '90s just had a baby and its name is Gen Z? How do we feel about the enlarging of pants, the sprouting of pearl necklaces, and a resurgence in New Balances and Champion sweatshirts? Beyond their fashion choices, how do we feel about this generation's greater openness about sexuality and same-sex friendships? Tom poses some community fashion questions to Matt as we get to know him better, namely how many hats, shoes, and flannels he owns. Finally, we look back at our fifth camp retreat held a few months ago, reveling in our victorious volleyball match against a group of teenagers. Matt also shares with us a snippet of what he shared at the retreat when he got to speak for us one night, including the reminder that God is working and loves to work on us slowly.

➡️ What are your go-to fashion preferences, whether you're Gen Z or otherwise? Did you attend this past YOBBERS retreat and have any fond memories to share? And should Matthew get a thigh tattoo in his 40s??

➡️ YOBBERS Retreat Blog Archive

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/01/12/yob-convocast-078-tom-matthew-analyze-gen-z-fashion-and-relive-our-5th-retreat

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Dawson, formerly Adam in previous podcasts, returns to help Tom celebrate Christmas this year! Dawson shares why he celebrates Christmas in February in addition to December, and Tom tells a Christmas tale of the first man he ever feared. We reference the "Fancy Christmas" recently spent with our YOBBERS community, including someone’s goal to appreciate Jesus’ humanity during what can be a complicated, if not lonely Christmas season. We also give a little Survivor 44 and Survivor 45 recap for all the Survivor fans in our midst in this final podcast of 2023!

➡️ Do you have any unique Christmas traditions? How do you feel about Christmas this year? Is it difficult to remember Jesus through whatever complicating dynamics you experience during the holidays?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/12/23/yob-convocast-077-tom-dawson-create-new-christmas-traditions

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

📧 Email us: [email protected]

✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

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➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers

➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros

➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.