Your Other Family

Matthew returns to discuss his home life: always living with his family even as he enters his late thirties! He explains the importance of family within his Navajo culture, sharing why he enjoys regularly going home to the reservation after moving away from it. But Matthew also shares why he doesn’t disclose anything about his sexuality with his conservative family. Despite this withholding, Matthew feels at home with his churches and friends, particularly his male friends, claiming he’s never felt more masculine and comfortable in his body than he does now. Will he always live with family, or does he aspire for another living situation in the future?

Do you live with family, and if so, what are the joys and limitations of your living situation? How does your faith, sexuality, and masculinity affect your family, and vice versa? Are you out with your family, or do you hope to be one day? Do you aspire toward another living situation outside your family?

We spend over half our lives at home; let’s discuss how where we live impacts our faith, sexuality, and masculinity! Join us all summer AT HOME, as we connect with a different YOB community member in a different life stage and living situation. Today we welcome back Marshall to talk more about his unique home life: a 20-acre farm, living alongside 23 people in a central house, cabins, tiny houses, and RV’s. How has Marshall enjoyed living alone in the past, and did he second-guess living with younger single men as an older single man? How did Marshall’s many living situations over six decades lead to his buying this farm, and what’s joyful and also challenging about leading such an intentional community of believers?

Would you like to live on a large property with lots of people in intentional community, particularly if you live a single life longterm, or does that feel daunting to you? Do you definitively know whether it's better for you to live with others or perhaps alone?

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• YOB ConvoCast 064: Tom's visit to Marshall's farm

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• “Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

We kick off a new summer series, AT HOME: how our current life stages and living situations impact our faith, sexuality, and masculinity. Join us each episode for a new member of our YOB community sharing his story from various life stages and living situations. We start with our “plain old gay” Matt, who has been living with other gay men, both affirming and traditional, after 15 years of living by himself. We learn Matt’s home environment growing up, including how that shaped his view of what the future would look like. What have been the joys and challenges of sharing his current and recent homes with other gay men, and what does he think of the “optics” of having fellow gay roommates, if anything at all?

Have you lived with other gay men: Side A, Side B, or otherwise? What were the joys and challenges of sharing a home with gay roommates? Have you lived alone for an extended part of your life, and how has that shaped your sense of home?

• YOB ConvoCast 086

• Matt's first podcast on being a "plain old gay"

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“Already Home” by Hills x Hills; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

It’s our State of the Sparrow podcast/community update! Tom goes on an off-the-grid trip, a new YOB ConvoCast summer series is coming, and we need new websites for YOB and YOS – which requires a talented web designer! Know anyone? Email Tom: [email protected]

Harrison Bly joins the show to discuss masculine friendship! Harrison is a member of our YOBBERS community and the author of Bent on Men, a book recently featured in our monthly YOBBERS Book Club. Both Tom and Harrison reference their books, sharing what happens after some pivotal friendships change, fizzle, or even disintegrate entirely after the final page. They discuss the friendship dynamics of connecting with straight men as well as fellow "Side B" men. What are the challenges or even road blocks to forming various male friendships? And what do we do with this loneliness epidemic which has hit men hard?

Where are the victories and struggles alike in befriending both queer and straight men? Have you read Harrison's book, Bent on Men, and do you have any takeaways from the male friendships he's written about?

• YOB ConvoCast 085

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Simon joins the show from faraway Britain as our first native UK YOBBER! He tells us about his life in Oxfordshire, including a cat and his very own "flat." Tom bonds with Simon over their shared experiences in Oxford, including the very same bedroom. Simon gives us a lovely list of Britishisms, including the definition of a "yob." He also shares some of his story with faith and sexuality, enlightening us about Side B life from a non-American country. We also have an exciting update on the European YOBBERS retreat taking place later this year!

Are you also from the UK, or do you have another non-American story to lend about faith/sexuality?

• YOB ConvoCast 084

• YOB ConvoCast 082: Tom & Daniel Pitch this Summer's First European YOBBERS Retreat!

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Erin returns to discuss the development of Your Other Sisters, including our recently held coed Zoom call with Your Other Brothers! We recap our YOB and YOS call, including a critical icebreaker of our favorite condiments. We invite all who are interested in these YOB and YOS developments to join us! Man or woman, shoot us an email to learn more: contact[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com

For the rest of the episode, we discuss this current season of Lent in these weeks leading up to Easter. We share some of our spiritual upbringings, including our experience with, or without, Lent, as well as with fasting in general. What are our motivations for fasting, and how do we practice fasting in healthy, God-honoring ways? How can we take our relationships with God in this season of Lent and continue growing them on the other side of Easter Sunday?

Are you observing Lent this year, or what is God teaching you in this season before Easter? Have you practiced fasting as a spiritual discipline? What prevents you or guides your motivations in fasting?

• YOB ConvoCast 083

• Tom's Lent blog: "Do I Fast to Punish Myself or Meet with God?"

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“Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Our resident Enneagram Seven and unofficial international correspondent, Daniel, returns to pitch this summer's special gathering of YOBBERS -- in Europe! He joins Tom to discuss a smaller-scale retreat or "holiday" somewhere in the Mediterranean, inviting all who are interested to email him ASAP: daniel[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com

Daniel also catches us up on his life in London -- including the exciting news that he is now a British citizen! He tells us about one country where he's already traveled with his new passport, as well as another on the horizon to see a certain female pop star perform. Finally, we invite AI to listen in on our entire Zoom conversation and summarize the episode! It's...chillingly accurate.

➡️ Where else should YOB plan a future retreat? What theme should we explore for another YOB ConvoCast series this summer?

➡️ Daniel's Enneagram Seven ConvoCast

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/03/08/yob-convocast-082-tom-daniel-pitch-the-first-european-yobbers-retreat

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Daniel's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/daniel/

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➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

First-time guest Andrew joins Tom to discuss Netflix’s Heartstopper! It’s a queer coming-of-age show that many in our YOB community have enjoyed, though its depictions of queer romance could also be distracting for some (nothing sexual in the first two seasons, just lots of same-sex kissing). We discuss what we loved from the characters in romantic pairings to the loyal friendships that ultimately reinforce this show. We devote our remaining time to the show’s lone asexual character as two people in YOB who identify as asexual ourselves. What did we resonate with in this character, and where was the disconnect?

➡️ Have you seen Heartstopper? What did you enjoy about the show, or where did you find something lacking? If you also identify with asexuality, what did you make of the show's take with its asexual character?

➡️ Keegan's ConvoCast on bisexuality

➡️ Tom's ConvoCast on asexuality

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2024/02/23/yob-convocast-081-tom-andrew-review-heartstopper-and-discuss-asexuality

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

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✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.