Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

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If your pain becomes so heavy that you're punishing yourself physically, or even thinking about taking your life, please reach out locally to your suicide prevention helpline.

And then come back to this podcast episode where I'm going to share with you:
- why I know it's not your fault and there's actually nothing wrong with you
- where you need to start your healing
- what becomes possible once you get the right help

Please, stay safe. You're worth it. And you deserve to live a happier, healthier life.
It is possible for you.

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Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Always doing more, organizing and controlling 10 steps in advance to prevent any surprises...
all of that because you wouldn't feel good enough if you did any less than that...

How can you make sure you won't need solo holidays after coming back from your family holidays, at the end of the summer? And how can you enjoy the summer too, without being just the one who organizes and prepares everything and has no time for herself to relax?

What if you already tried to "slow down" in the past but it only made you feel lazy and guilty for not doing enough?

Listen in.

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Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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""I struggle mostly with being overwhelmed and overstimulated and keeping calm in those situations. I do stay calm but not to the best of my ability. I feel like I’m tired a lot. I have two children aged 4 and 2."

"I think my main struggles are dealing with anger in the moment when I can’t step away as I need to be present for the kids. I’ve tried lots of the usual techniques - breathing counting and they don’t work.
Also overstimulation is a big thing for me - when both kids are talking/screaming/crying at the same time I feel my anger rising."

Those are just two questions I received from mom fighting with overstimulation, especially with noise.

How do you stay calm in these situations?
How do you not yell, but also not shut down emotionally?
How do you help your kids tone it down and teach them how to manage their emotions in a healthy way, without screaming their head off?

Join me in this podcast episode. You're definitely not the only mom struggling with this.

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Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Too busy to keep running with your to-do list in one hand and your family, work, home, in the other?
Are you even sure you're still running in the "good" direction?
And how would you know what a good direction look like?
Could it be more than just keeping everyone fed, clean and getting to places on time?

Let's dive into this together in this special 100th episode of the podcast that's dedicated to you, Supermom!

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Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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No, your child did not get the "narcissistic genetics" of your spouse.
And you are not yelling because you got the "yelling genes" of your mother/father.

What if it was not about genetics?

And what if you did have a power to change it, so that:
- you can stop being triggered by your kids = don't have to yell
- help them grow up into kind, respectful, happy, loving human beings feeling worthy of love

Is that something you would like for you and for your kids?

Then dive into this podcast episode.

Watch this episode on Youtube as well!

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Were you raised to always take care of others, never say no, and allow yourself to feel good and worthy only when others need you?

Yes, your empathy and selfless nurturing character are great character strengths.
But you're also paying a high price for them, don't you?

So how to do it differently?
How do you still keep being a nice, caring mom, without becoming resentful and burned out?

Who would you be and where would your sense of self-worth come from, if not from your need to feel needed?

Let's talk...

Watch this episode on Youtube as well!

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Well, whenever I start feeling sorry for myself about how heavy and difficult my life is, I think of Sarah.

Yes, she too wanted to be a calm mom and stop yelling at her toddler daughter. But also...

This brave mom went already through more than what would be enough of pain and struggle for 2-3 lifetimes.
From growing up with alcoholic parents, into becoming an addict and diagnosed with mental disorder, all the way to her husband passing away practically in her arms less than a year ago.

More than enough reasons to be totally broken, out of control, stressed out, and taking it out on her daughter.

And yet, when you see her, she's so strong, resilient and at peace.

How is she doing it?
How did she heal from all of that?

Listen in and do get inspired.

Because if Sarah could become a perfectly imperfect, calm mom, why couldn't you?

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Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Summer holidays are after Christmas and Year End holidays usually the most stressful, dreaded times of the year for busy moms... Is it your case too?
You spend so much time and energy planning it, so much money to make it fun and do something special, and there are so many things that can go wrong and ruin it all.

What's the best way to prevent any summer drama and guilt?
What is the only thing that's fully in your control?
And how can you start working on it now, so that it's easier, lighter, and more fun then?

Listen in...

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Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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I wish I was so aware and courageous as Bili is when I became a mom...
Because even though Bili loves her parents and doesn't blame them for anything, she wanted to do better for her son. BEFORE she'd start yelling at him and losing her patience...

That's why Bili joined the Stop Yelling Program when her son was 2.5 months old.
And now, 3 months later, she's sharing her journey and results in this podcast episode.

What did she need to "clean up" in her past?
Why is she so confident she will NOT become the yelling mom?
And how has her relationship with her partner changed?

Hear it for yourself.
Let me introduce you to Bili.

Catch this episode on Youtube as well!

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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Why parenting techniques or anger therapy could never help you stop yelling at your kids?

I usually share this in our "Mommy/Daddy Tantrum" trainings. But after I explain the first key piece about healing your own childhood (generational developmental) trauma, there's only a little time left to explain the second, equally important piece - Mental Fitness.

Because imagine this: your uncontrollable anger is gone. You no longer lose control over your emotions, your not screaming. But then what? What do you do when your kids are still not listening, they are still too late, still keep hitting you or their siblings, still doing the things that are not ok... How do you make them listen without punishing, or shaming them? And how do you show them a healthy example of respect, boundaries, and healthy emotional control?

That's where the Mental Fitness piece comes in.

Dive in with me and then take these two free assessments:

PQ Test (= Positive Intelligence Free Assessment): https://assessment.positiveintelligence.com/pq/overview
The Saboteurs test: https://assessment.positiveintelligence.com/saboteur/overview

Link to the episode mentioned:
Ep 69: ADHD Symptoms That Come From Childhood Trauma
Listen to it here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2069721/episodes/14459995
Watch it here: https://studio.youtube.com/video/oPjNjUOKJ68/edit

Catch this episode in Youtube as well!

Next step: take the free 3-minute quiz "Why can't I stop yelling?" https://zen-supermom.circle.so/yelling-quiz
Ready for help now? Join the Stop Yelling Program: https://zen-supermom.circle.so/stop-yelling

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