10% Happier with Dan Harris

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The star of SNL and Barry discusses how he channels his anxiety into his work. Plus, an imitation of Joseph Goldstein.

Bill Hader has made the transition from being a master of stand-out characters and impressions on eight seasons of Saturday Night Life to becoming a true multi-hyphenate by creating, directing, writing, producing and starring as a burned-out assassin trying to break into Hollywood as an actor in HBO's award-winning and critically lauded dark comedy, Barry.

In this episode we talk about:

• How Bill deals with anxiety
• His panic attack on live television
• His love of directing and the importance of having the right collaborators

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The renowned psychotherapist talks about the importance of accountability in generosity in her own life, and the one thing you can do right now, today, to make yourself happier.

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and bestselling author. She has a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are huge bestsellers. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin?

In this episode we talk about:

• How to get around the obstacles that hinder connection with other people
• The role of conflict in relationships and why we shouldn't be afraid of it
• Ways to get better at experiencing anxiety or discomfort so that you can better handle the ups and downs of life
• And the simple thing you can do right now to make yourself happier

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Lessons From the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness | Dr. Robert Waldinger

How to Keep Friendships From Imploding | Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity | Esther Perel

Love in the Time of COVID | Esther Perel

Esther Perel: Turning Conflict Into Connection

Esther Perel on the Other A.I.: Artificial Intimacy (SXSW 2023)

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A leading behavioral psychologist reveals practical strategies to help you actually make the changes you want to make this new year (and beyond).

Hal Hershfield is a professor of marketing, behavioral decision-making, and psychology at UCLA's Anderson School of Management, and the author of Your Future Self: How to Make Tomorrow Better Today. His research on future selves has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, as well as the Harvard Business Review and Psychology Today.

In this episode we talk about:

• What he means by a future self, and why thinking about your future self will help you make better decisions
• How to think about your future self without neglecting the present moment
• The importance of commitment devices, and what they are — including some which you can even adopt right now
• The importance of breaking down big goals to make them achievable
• How to reframe commitments so that you actually stick to them
• The role of mental time travel to help you actually do what you say you want to do

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Sometimes we feel like we have too much energy to meditate. Make space for all of that energy by listening to sounds as they come and go.

About Sharon Salzberg:

A towering figure in the meditation world, Sharon Salzberg is a prominent teacher & New York Times best-selling author. She has played a crucial role bringing mindfulness and lovingkindness practices to the West.

Sharon co-founded the Insight Meditation Society (IMS) alongside Joseph Goldstein and Jack Kornfield and is the author of thirteen books, including Lovingkindness, Real Happiness, and the most recent Real Life. Sharon lives in New York City and teaches around the world.

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Tackling one of the best known contemplative clichés: being in the present moment and "inhabiting the now."

Matthew Brensilver, MSW, PhD, teaches retreats at the Insight Retreat Center, Spirit Rock and other Buddhist centers.He was previously program director for Mindful Schools and for more than a decade, was a core teacher at Against the Stream Buddhist Meditation Society. Before committing to teach meditation full-time, he spent years doing research on addiction pharmacotherapy at the UCLA Center for Behavioral and Addiction Medicine. Each summer, he lectures at UCLA's Mindful Awareness Research Center on the intersections between mindfulness, science and psychotherapy. Matthew is the co-author of two books about meditation during adolescence and continues to be interested in the unfolding dialogue between Buddhism and science.

In this episode we talk about:

• What being present actually means
• What to do when Buddhist teachings or meditation instructions feel out of reach
• What to do when a memory arises in meditation, especially a difficult one
• The brain's, at times, exhausting, evolutionarily wired tendency toward constant prediction
• The benefits of going on meditation retreats
• Distinguishing between true alarms and false alarms

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A slew of evidence-based, ready-to-try-today interventions we can use to "complete the stress cycle."

Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life. She has a MS in counseling and a PhD in health behavior, both from Indiana University. She's also the co-author of Burnout: The Secret To Unlocking The Stress Cycle.

Amelia Nagoski holds a DMA in conducting from the University of Connecticut. An assistant professor and coordinator of music at Western New England University, she regularly presents educational sessions discussing the application of communications science and psychological research for audiences of other professional musicians, including "Beyond Burnout Prevention: Embodied Wellness for Conductors." She is the co-author of Burnout: The Secret To Unlocking The Stress Cycle

In this episode we talk about:

• The three characteristics of burnout
• The difference between addressing stressful circumstances in our lives and dealing with the actual physical experience of stress
• What they call the "real enemy"
• How to create a "bubble of love"
• The evidence-based interventions you can try right away

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How to stay focused, fight distraction, and function at your peak.

Dr. Amishi Jha is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami. She serves as the Director of Contemplative Neuroscience for the Mindfulness Research and Practice Initiative, which she co-founded in 2010. Dr Jha is the author of the national bestseller, Peak Mind.

In this episode we talk about:

• What peak mind is
• Why meta awareness is important to practice and achieve peak mind
• The suite of mindfulness-based attention training practices
• Why humans developed attention in the first place
• Using the flashlight and floodlight metaphors to help us understand different types of attention
• The mental pushup for attention: focus, notice, and redirect
• The attention benefits for high stress populations who engage in contemplatives practices
• Multitasking vs. monotasking
• The real life and death consequences of confirmation bias
• Part of the reason why we may be experiencing a crisis of attention
• Giving our mind the freedom to choose where it goes next

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Why You Can't Pay Attention - And How to Think Deeply Again | Johann Hari

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Understanding the Buddhist concept of "the five aggregates."

Pascal Auclair has been immersed in the study and practice of Buddhist teachings since 1997. He has participated in retreats in Asia and America with renowned masters from both monastic and secular backgrounds. Pascal completed four years of teacher training with Joseph Goldstein and Jack Kornfield of the Insight Meditation Society in Massachusetts and Spirit Rock Meditation Center in California. Pascal teaches mainly in North America and Europe. He is one of the founding members of True North Insight, where he teaches and acts as a mentor.

In this episode we talk about:

• How the five aggregates got Auclair hooked on Buddhist practice and philosophy
• The five aggregates as a way to work with difficulty
• Living with the non-negotiable prospect of dying
• Paying attention to pleasant, unpleasant, and neutral feeling tone
• Meditation training as a way to understand that experiences are conditional

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Next year marks the fifteenth anniversary of Gretchen Rubin's #1 New York Times bestselling book, The Happiness Project. To celebrate, she's leading a one-time, one-year course called "The Happiness Project: Revisited." In this bonus excerpt from the course, Gretchen and Elizabeth explore the lessons Gretchen has learned over the years, talk about her plans to do a new happiness project in 2024, and discuss how other people can do their own happiness projects.

You can learn more and sign up here—plus, get 30% off through December 31st with code THPR30DEC.

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The interview that changed the way Dan relates to food.

Evelyn Tribole, MS, RD, CEDRD-S is an award-winning registered dietitian, with a nutrition counseling practice in Newport Beach, California. She has written ten books including the bestsellers Healthy Homestyle Cooking and Intuitive Eating (co-author). Her newest book is the Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food.

In this episode we talk about:

• How meditation practice and intuitive eating are similar
• The difference between mindful eating and intuitive eating
• Why gentle nutrition is the last principle of intuitive eating
• How to rethink negative body image
• Why you can't tell how healthy a person is by looking at their body
• Why it's important not to talk about food in moralistic terms
• How to make peace with and rethink our relationship with food

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How to Embrace the Anti-Diet | Christy Harrison

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