In this episode, I dive into the importance of setting standards for yourself, rather than having expectations for others. I share a personal story about a conversation with high performance expert Brendon Burchard at a Mastermind event in Napa Valley. I've turned one thought he shared into a lesson for our Calm & Confident toolbox. We often attach unnecessary and unrealistic expectations for others in our lives — from family to friends to coworkers. When we shift our focus to having standards for our own lives — from health to faith to ambition to growth — we work on our own journey, rather than control others.

"The standards I set for myself matter more than the expectations I have of others." - Trina Gray

Key Takeaways:

• I learned that setting standards for myself frees me from the trap of comparing and competing.
• Trina's emotional story about her son reminded me that pride and sadness can exist side by side—and both are valid.
• Letting go of rigid expectations of others allows more peace and better relationships in every area of my life.
• I'm reminded that I should thrive where I am planted by owning my current circumstances and showing up fully.
• Trina's mantra of calm, confidence, clear communication, and gratitude gave me a framework for how I want to show up daily.

Resources:

• Mel Robbin's Let them Theory - A life-changing tool millions of people can't stop talking about. The Let Them Theory is a step-by-step guide on how to stop letting other people's opinions, drama, and judgment impact your life. Two simple words, Let Them, will set you free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you. It's time to build a life where you come first—your dreams, your goals, your happiness.

• Brendon Burchard's GrowthDay - Your new daily practice for personal growth! Join 300,000 achievers from around the world who use GrowthDay to stay motivated, confident, and productive as they become their best selves.

Connect & Reflect:

If this episode resonated with you, take a moment to reflect on your own standards—what do they look like? How are they helping (or hurting) your growth?

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