Counselor Toolbox Podcast with DocSnipes

1046-Helping the Inner Child Process Grief

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What is the Inner Child?

  • The inner child refers to the collection of memories and experiences from childhood.
  • These memories shape mental shortcuts, called schema, which influence how individuals interpret and react to present-day life events.

    • Children’s Cognitive Development

    • Children process information concretely and personally, often believing events are their fault.
    • The schema formed during childhood tend to be all-or-nothing and are carried into adulthood unless evaluated and adjusted.

      • Impact of Insecure Attachment

      • A lack of secure attachment in childhood can result in a "wounded" inner child.
      • This wounded inner child often struggles with emotional regulation, boundary-setting, and assertiveness in adulthood.

        • Secure Attachment and Emotional Regulation

        • Secure attachments help children identify and manage emotions.
        • These children can tolerate their own and others' emotions and effectively set boundaries and communicate needs.

          • Healing the Wounded Inner Child

          • The goal is not to eliminate the inner child but to heal wounds through self-compassion and re-parenting.
          • Re-parenting involves providing the inner child with the support and validation they missed during childhood.

            • Recognizing the Wounded Inner Child

            • The wounded inner child may manifest as avoidance of fun, fear, or feelings of disempowerment.
            • Healing begins with creating a safe internal space where the inner child feels acknowledged and supported.

              • Types of Trauma Affecting the Inner Child

              • Trauma can result from various childhood experiences such as rejection, abandonment, or unfulfilled dreams.
              • These traumatic memories are often stored and avoided, resulting in unresolved grief.

                • Techniques for Helping the Inner Child Grieve

                • Before grieving can occur, the inner child must feel safe and secure.
                • Engage in practices that foster secure attachment with the self, such as validating emotions and offering consistent support.

                  • Mindfulness and Reconnection

                  • Reconnect with the inner child through activities like mindfulness, reminiscing about childhood, and engaging in joyful activities that the inner child enjoys.

                  Cognitive Behavioral Approaches

                  • Evaluate the child’s schema to see if they are still accurate.
                  • Challenge all-or-nothing and self-focused beliefs formed in childhood to promote more adaptive thinking in adulthood.


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