Why I got the word SURRENDER tattooed on my right arm for my 48th birthday yesterday. I have been a control freak, people pleaser and someone scared of judgement for years and it has cost me "living" life to it's fullest and I have had enough of that. Control and people pleasing are illusions and they are hurting your life too. When we are children, there is a time when we know love, trust and possibilities. Nothing feels out of reach All we need and want is love and to be authentically loved. We trust. We are confident We are happy We are present. And then life happens. We get let down. We learn not to trust. We decide things are too hard or not possible. Our ego is born to to protect us and keep us safe and we feed our ego by staying rigid in beliefs and validating that we are "right" CONTROL and limitations set in. Stress takes over. SURRENDER. I finally have after years of fighting. And I will remind myself to SURRENDER vs CONTROL now daily as it's stamped on my arm for life.