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You've been doing the work—learning about mind-body healing, practicing the tools, maybe even seeing progress. So why do your symptoms still feel like they're quietly calling the shots?
In this solo episode, Grace digs into one of the most common (and most frustrating) phases of healing: when symptoms linger in the background, still influencing your decisions, still getting checked on, still shaping your days—even when the fear isn't as loud as it used to be.
She explores why the nervous system holds onto symptoms long after you've started healing, how vigilance disguises itself as responsibility, and the role that identity and secondary gains play in keeping you stuck. Grace also shares from her own healing journey—including the moment a mentor called her out on a pattern she couldn't see herself—and walks through what it actually looks like to loosen your symptoms' grip without dismissing your experience.
In this episode, Grace covers:
✨ The different phases of the mind-body healing journey—and where you might be getting stuck
✨ How symptom monitoring quietly becomes a full-time job your nervous system won't quit
✨ Why your symptoms may have become part of your identity (and what to do about it)
✨ Secondary gains: what your symptoms might be doing for you on a subconscious level
✨ How to replace what symptoms provide—rest, permission, predictability—with something more authentic
✨ Practical ways to start loosening the pattern and orienting toward safety and connection
Whether you're in a flare, stuck in a cycle of subtle symptom-checking, or wondering why healing feels like it's stalled—this episode is one to save, revisit, and let sink in.
Resources from Grace:
Connect with Grace
By Grace Secker5
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You've been doing the work—learning about mind-body healing, practicing the tools, maybe even seeing progress. So why do your symptoms still feel like they're quietly calling the shots?
In this solo episode, Grace digs into one of the most common (and most frustrating) phases of healing: when symptoms linger in the background, still influencing your decisions, still getting checked on, still shaping your days—even when the fear isn't as loud as it used to be.
She explores why the nervous system holds onto symptoms long after you've started healing, how vigilance disguises itself as responsibility, and the role that identity and secondary gains play in keeping you stuck. Grace also shares from her own healing journey—including the moment a mentor called her out on a pattern she couldn't see herself—and walks through what it actually looks like to loosen your symptoms' grip without dismissing your experience.
In this episode, Grace covers:
✨ The different phases of the mind-body healing journey—and where you might be getting stuck
✨ How symptom monitoring quietly becomes a full-time job your nervous system won't quit
✨ Why your symptoms may have become part of your identity (and what to do about it)
✨ Secondary gains: what your symptoms might be doing for you on a subconscious level
✨ How to replace what symptoms provide—rest, permission, predictability—with something more authentic
✨ Practical ways to start loosening the pattern and orienting toward safety and connection
Whether you're in a flare, stuck in a cycle of subtle symptom-checking, or wondering why healing feels like it's stalled—this episode is one to save, revisit, and let sink in.
Resources from Grace:
Connect with Grace

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