Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#1180 - Do Helpful Husbands Get Lucky? The Research Says...


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Does helping around the house lead to a better love life? In this preview of Saturday's interview with Professor Leah Ruppanner, we explore the surprising truth about mental load duplication in relationships and why keeping score might be missing the point. Plus, discover why men who share the mental load don't just get 'lucky' - they get better sleep, health, and life satisfaction too.

Quote of the Episode: "The load hasn't shifted, it is still as heavy as it was, but now we're shouldering it together."

Key Insights:

  • Both partners often carry duplicate worries and mental load
  • Men frequently carry heavy but unspoken burdens
  • Task division isn't about transactions but teamwork
  • Mental load reduction isn't about attraction but creating space for connection
  • Daily vs episodic tasks affect how couples share responsibilities
  • Working as a team matters more than keeping score
  • Sharing mental load benefits both partners' wellbeing
  • Open communication about burdens strengthens relationships

Resources Mentioned:

  • Professor Leah Ruppanner, University of Melbourne
  • Research on mental load and marital satisfaction
  • Happy Families
  • Full interview airing Saturday

Action Steps for Couples:

  1. Acknowledge both partners' mental burdens without score-keeping
  2. Share loads together rather than carrying them individually
  3. Focus on team approaches rather than transactional divisions
  4. Create space for connection by sharing mental and physical tasks

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