Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#1198- The 'Worst Mother' Who Got It Right


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When Lenore Skenazy let her nine-year-old ride the subway alone, she was dubbed "the worst mother in the world." In this preview of Saturday's interview, discover why preparation beats protection and how trusting kids with real responsibility helps them become capable adults. Plus, learn why the illusion of control might be holding our children back.

Quote of the Episode: "If you want responsible kids, you have to give them responsibility"—Alfie Kohn

Key Insights:

  • Preparation matters more than protection.
  • Trust builds capability and confidence.
  • Control is ultimately an illusion.
  • Mistakes are learning opportunities.
  • Clear boundaries enable independence.
  • Practice builds competence.
  • Real-world experience teaches responsibility.
  • Consequences should lead to learning, not restriction.

Resources Mentioned:

  • Let Grow movement
  • Lenore Skenazy's work
  • Jonathan Haidt's research
  • Happy Families

Action Steps for Parents:

  1. Prepare Rather than Prevent
    • Practice skills before independence
    • Provide necessary tools and information
    • Create clear safety guidelines
  2. Build Trust Gradually
    • Start with small responsibilities
    • Allow learning from mistakes
    • Maintain open communication
  3. Focus on Growth
    • Use setbacks as teaching moments
    • Celebrate increased independence
    • Balance freedom with preparation

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