Shameless Leadership

125: Why You're Afraid of Change


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Change is the WORST. Or at least that’s what I used to tell myself – for like 30 years.

 

After becoming a mom I spent a full year feeling completely run over by all the change and unpredictability of my new mommy life. I kept wait for everything to “go back to normal.”

 

As you can guess – that never happened. 

 

I had to resolve myself to the constant change that is motherhood. 

 

As someone who thrives on routine and predictability, that was a tough pill to swallow. But then I looked at some of ways I had embraced change in other areas of my life over the last 10 years and I was able to slooooooowly start embracing motherhood and change in a new and more positive light. 

 

Before I tell you how to get over your fear of change, let me help you understand why you’re afraid of change:

 

  1. The known is always more comfortable than the unknown
  2. We live in a fear based culture – so we’re programmed to be afraid of what we do not yet know
  3. We like consistency, predictability and control
  4. We’re scared of failure, mistakes, and of wasting our time and energy
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    And now – the good stuff - how to get over your fear of change:

    1. Recognize that you are already in constant flux and transition
    2. Consider change an opportunity for a “software upgrade”
    3. Know there will be moments of panic and doubt and possibly a sense of complete failure and/or regret
    4. Know that practicing and embracing change makes it feel less burdensome
    5. Understand that the best way to conquer fear and anxiety is to prove to yourself you CAN do the things you are afraid of
    6. change is not bad – it’s just different
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