130: Your Standards Shape Your Life, Not Your Goals

 This one’s a little different, and it’s personal.

Over the last six months, I’ve walked through one of the hardest seasons of my life. I haven’t shared it publicly until now, but I’ve been navigating my divorce. And while it’s been painful, it’s also brought more clarity than I’ve ever had before.

This season has taught me something I’ll never forget:
Our standards shape our life, not our goals.

Your goals are what you want.
But your standards? They’re what you allow.
They determine what you say yes to, what you walk away from, and ultimately, what kind of life you build.

In this episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to truly raise your standards,  not from a place of perfection or control, but from a place of self-respect. I’m sharing the lessons that came from realizing I didn’t want to live feeling unseen and undervalued, and how I made the decision to choose myself, even when it meant starting over.

We’ll talk about:
 ✨ The difference between goals and standards (and why one matters more)
 ✨ What happens when you compromise your standards — and how to stop
 ✨ The freedom that comes from taking back your power
 ✨ Showing up as the version of you who enforces her boundaries with grace and confidence
 ✨ Why it’s okay to be “the villain” in someone else’s story when you’re protecting your peace

This isn’t just a motivational pep talk, it’s real, raw, and from the heart.
If you’ve ever found yourself settling, shrinking, or silencing what you need to keep the peace, I hope this conversation reminds you that you’re allowed to want more.

Because you are a grown adult who gets to choose.
And when you finally stop lowering your standards to keep everyone else comfortable, you make room for the life that truly fits you.