More clients, more revenue, more help — but also more chaos? You might not be growing a business. You might just be making more work.

Summary:

In this episode, we break down the common trap creative entrepreneurs fall into: mistaking hustle and busyness for true business growth. We’ll explore why your efforts to “grow” might actually be making your life harder — and how to redefine growth in a way that gives you margin, clarity, and freedom. If you’re feeling stretched thin but still stuck, this one’s for you.

Takeaways:

• The subtle but dangerous difference between growing a business and just making more work

• Why hiring, more services, or new offers often don’t solve the overwhelm

• How brand clarity and systems are the real drivers of sustainable growth

• What it looks like to pursue “margin over movement” in your business

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If your offer is good — maybe even great — but you’re still not booking enough of the right clients, you’re not alone.

In this episode, we unpack why even the most refined services can fall flat when they’re not framed around what the client truly wants. From over-explaining deliverables to diluting your messaging with too much detail, we walk through the real reasons your offer might be getting passed over — and how to shift your approach so your value lands with clarity and confidence.

Takeaways:

• Why a strong offer can still fall flat if it’s framed around you, not your client

• What business owners do when bookings are low — and why those fixes backfire

• How messaging becomes diluted when you grasp for attention or try too hard

• The difference between selling the outcome and selling your process

Show Notes

If you’re doing all the right things but still not attracting the right clients, the problem probably isn’t your visibility — it’s your clarity. In this episode, we talk about what unclear messaging sounds like, how it confuses your buyer, and why posting more, showing up more, or networking harder often backfires. You’ll learn how to spot the real issue and what to focus on instead if you want better inquiries from clients who actually get what you do.

Takeaways:

• What unclear messaging sounds like and how it shows up in your business

• Why visibility without clarity creates noise, not conversions

• The long-term impact of fixing surface problems without solving the root messaging issue

• What changes when your message is actually clear and buyer-aligned

Think your sales process is helping you book more couples? It might be doing the exact opposite. In this replay of one of our most popular episodes, Sam breaks down six sales tactics that seem smart on the surface but actually hurt your chances of booking. From proposal deadlines to automated replies, you’ll learn why these strategies often fail and what to do instead to convert more inquiries into paying clients.

Takeaways:

• Why scarcity tactics like proposal expiration dates can push buyers away instead of prompting action

• How over-qualifying leads can hurt your booking rate, especially if you’re not getting enough inquiries

• The problem with treating discovery calls like sales pitches and how to shift your approach

• Why quick, personal responses often matter more than polished automation in a luxury market

Last week, we talked about them—your buyers. Their psychology. Their motivations. What makes them say yes.

But this week? We’re turning the mirror around.

Because here’s the uncomfortable truth: Too many business owners are building companies to please other people.

Trying to match what their peers are doing. Trying to win over buyers who may not even be the right fit. Trying to make their business look impressive from the outside while feeling completely misaligned on the inside.

If that’s you, I want to shake you by the shoulders (gently) and say: You didn’t start your business to impress strangers. You started it to create freedom from a 9-5, from boring work, from doing what other people tell you to do.

So let’s go back to the real question: Why do you own your business?

What motivated you to step out on your own in the first place? What do you really want from this thing you’re building?

This episode isn’t about your clients. It’s about you.

I’ll walk you through the 9 core psychological motivators that shape not just how we buy but why we start businesses, how we grow them, and the decisions we make along the way. I’ll share my own stories, from my early days of chasing esteem and achievement to what actually fuels me now: autonomy and empowerment.

And I’ll challenge you to get brutally honest about what’s driving you so you can start building a business that actually serves the life you want.

No more old goals. No more outside validation.

If you’re looking to stare burnout in the face and laugh, it’s a helluva lot easier when you believe 1000% in why you’re doing what you’re doing.

Let’s talk about how to own YOUR business.

Today’s wedding couples aren’t booking vendors just for pretty pictures - they’re booking for how you make them feel. In this listener-favorite episode, we break down the emotional and psychological drivers that influence their decisions. 

You’ll learn why surface-level wants like flowers or photos are really about deeper needs like belonging, esteem, and connection, and how to uncover those needs in your clients. 

Packed with practical examples for planners, photographers, stationers, and more, this episode will help you craft messaging and experiences that resonate at an emotional level and inspire couples to say “yes.”

What You’ll Learn:

• The 4 core desires driving wedding clients

• Why emotions matter more than details

• How to craft messaging that connects on a deeper level

Selling to BTS Decision-Makers with Amrit Dhillon‑Bains

Selling and managing luxury weddings is hard enough. Add multiple decision makers, deep cultural traditions, and high emotional stakes — and it becomes a true test of your sales and client service skills.

In this episode, Sam sits down with Amrit Dhillon‑Bains, founder of Anaïs Events, a Northern California–based planning and design firm specializing in upscale, highly personalized South Asian weddings. Amrit brings a rare blend of creativity, business acumen, and cultural insight to her work, helping families plan multi‑day celebrations with hundreds (sometimes thousands) of guests — while keeping everyone aligned.

Amrit shares how she:

• Identifies and maps out key stakeholders early in the process

• Gains trust and buy‑in from even the quietest or most resistant decision makers

• Handles sensitive family dynamics with empathy and authority

• Prepares clients to make informed budget decisions without alienating them

• Personalizes proposals and sales conversations for each unique family and situation

• Balances flexibility and boundaries to maintain a sustainable business

Whether you work in luxury weddings or simply want to improve your ability to sell and serve complex client groups, this episode is packed with insights you can apply right away.

Connect with Amrit Dhillon‑Bains:

Instagram: @anaisevents

Website: www.anaisevents.com

Welcome back to the podcast! This time of year, so many wedding pros are deep in the ramp-up for busy season juggling timelines, emails, client meetings, vendor questions, and still trying to execute this weekend’s wedding on top of it all. It’s exciting, but it’s also exhausting. And if you’re not careful, it’s easy to say yes to everything… and end up with nothing left in the tank when it really counts.

That’s why today I’m sharing a replay of one of my favorite episodes all about the power of saying no.

If you’ve ever found yourself stretched too thin, feeling like there’s no room left for the work that really lights you up, this conversation is for you. We talk about how saying no — even during your busiest months — can actually help you prevent burnout, recharge your batteries, and keep you focused on what matters most.

Because when your calendar is packed with low-priority tasks, there’s no space left to say yes to the big opportunities that can move your business forward.

So as you head into the thick of wedding season, take a breath and listen in. Let’s dive into the replay.

In this episode, I’m joined by negotiation expert Alex Carter and executive presence coach Anne Marie Nest for a conversation about what it really means to lead with presence. We talk about the myths around confidence, how to interrupt negative self-talk, and why executive presence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you can learn and practice. Alex and Anne-Marie share personal stories, practical tips, and simple strategies you can start using right away. If you want to show up with more clarity, confidence, and command in your business, this episode is for you.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in your pricing, messaging, or marketing — this episode is for you. We’re digging into the real difference between confidence and competence, and why clarity is the missing link for so many creative entrepreneurs. You’ll hear why “fake it till you make it” rarely works in the long run, how competence builds true confidence, and what to focus on if you want better inquiries, stronger sales, and more aligned clients. Ready to stop guessing and start growing? Let’s get into it.