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#19: Sexual Abstinence in the Recovery Process


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In this episode, we talk about the purpose of sexual abstinence or sexual fasting in the recovery process.  Yes, it is important for rewiring the brain (for him) but it’s also important for learning authentic intimacy.  We unpack the concept (new to me!) that sexual intimacy is tangled up with all the other forms of intimacy which is part of the reason some men don’t have solid relationships with other guys. {(Blew my mind!}  We go into the how, the why, and the what.  We also discuss how it can be helpful for her if she isn’t feeling safe in the relationship.  We end with some of the deeper issues that can bubble up while a couple is going through a sexual fast.  We are so glad you are here for this tough topic!  
  • MasterClasses can be found here.
  • Shelley refers to a section in the Rescued workbook on sexual abstinence - see pages 120-121; for the building blocks of intimacy, see page 118.
  • Our friend and colleague, Invia Betjoseph says - “sexual abstinence is like control - alt - delete on the brain"
  • Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus.
  • We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites:  redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop!
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