Delight Your Marriage

193-Abuse, Part 4: I used to "submit"


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Here's what is covered in today's episode

  • There are a ton of "submit" verses in the Bible.
    • They were used to abuse me in my first marriage.
    • I think these also have made men feel that they had the right to abuse & justify their actions with the misuse of these scriptures.
  • But what people don't realize is they are reading the Bible (and even translations of the Bible) through a patriarchial lense.
    • Don't believe me?
    • What does "help-meet" mean?
      • This word which Eve is supposed to be to Adam.
      • Well, it's not the supporting, secondary, servant role you may have always thought.
      • The original word in Hebrew is "ezer kenegedo". Ezer is used 21x in the Old Testament
        • When speaking of Eve 2x in Genesis, it's translated as "help"
        • Three times it is used to describe a powerful nation that comes to save the nation of Israel from their enemies
        • The other 16x it's used to describe God as a military warrior, the powerful savior, giving desperate salvation from foes
        • Is that how you see women?
        • Is that how you see yourself?
  • What if more verses are viewed through this patriarchial lense and we just aren't aware?
  • What scriptural references do we KNOW for sure speak of female leadership even in the New Testament (sprinkled among the books including "wives submit to husbands" verses are found):
    • Woman apostle
    • Paul honoring the 10 out of 28 people who have been colaborers
    • Woman deacons
  • As a feminist myself, this material breaths life to my soul

  • BUT, what if there IS something to this "submitting" thing in the 21st century, Christian marriages with powerful, feminist women...?
  • What if there's an empowering message for both men and women when done "right"?
  • This is a morsel of a much larger conversation, but God-willing it will leave all of us with a bit more of a softened heart to where God may be leading us.

This isn't easy territory, but I pray that it is an eye-opening episode for every listener.

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