What if your estranged adult child sends you an angry letter (or email or text), listing all your flaws and failings as a parent? Should you respond right away? What should you say? What if they tell you not to contact them?

In this essential and practical episode, RC Podcast host Tina Gilbertson urges parents to pause when they receive this type of communication from estranged adult children. Instead of rushing to reply to all the points in the letter, send a simple acknowledgement first. And after that, take the time you need to respond more fully.

To acknowledge your child's message, Tina offers a three-sentence "script" using your own words. The 3 elements she proposes will both safeguard goodwill and buy you time to gather your thoughts. Don't respond to your adult child's angry letter before listening to this episode.

For much more information and tools to repair your relationship with your estranged adult child(ren), read Tina's book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.

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EPISODE LINKS:

Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 177: How to Process a Letter From Your Estranged Adult Child (Part 1) 

Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 178: How to Process a Letter From Your Estranged Adult Child (Part 2)