How do kids learn to think about their emotions instead of being swept away by them? In this episode, Dr. Caroline breaks down strategic emotion management, helping children and teens build emotional metacognition, the ability to reflect on and make sense of what they feel.

You’ll learn how to guide kids to pause, question, and evaluate their emotions: What is this feeling trying to tell me? Is it helping or hurting me right now?

Dr. Caroline shares practical strategies for teaching emotional literacy, building resilience, and creating space for reflection instead of reaction. She also offers real-life examples, from angry teens to overwhelmed kids, showing how adults can coach emotional awareness at any age. This episode includes simple tools, reflective questions, and step-by-step ways to strengthen emotional awareness and decision-making skills.

Key topics: emotional literacy, metacognition, cognitive reappraisal, resilience, co-regulation, reflective parenting, and emotional intelligence in youth.

Homework Ideas

Practice Helpful Responses

• The next time you or a child feel a strong emotion, pause and ask:
• What is this emotion trying to tell me?
• Is this emotion helpful right now?
• What can I do that aligns with my goals and values?
• Model this reflective thinking out loud with the child.
• Focus on curiosity over correction — “Huh, I wonder what my anger’s protecting right now.”
• Co-Regulation Practice!
• When kids are upset, start with validation only.
• Say “It sounds like you had a tough day.” Then pause.
• Once they’re calm, guide reflection with open-ended questions.

Emotion Journal or Chart

Write or draw feelings, what happened, what they thought, and what the emotion might be saying.

For younger kids: use colours or pictures.

For teens: include reflection prompts like “Was my reaction helpful?”

Emotion Decoder

Match emotions to their possible messages (e.g., anger → unfairness; sadness → loss or care).

Available in Dr. Caroline’s Emotional Literacy Book

Scaling Exercise

Rate emotions from 1–10 and discuss how the intensity changes when the situation is reappraised to build  perspective and reduce emotional overwhelm.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Emotional Literacy Book (https://korulearninginstitute.kit.com/emotionaliteracy)
• Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt (for adults exploring emotional reasoning)

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