Shameless Leadership

219: Boundaries (With Judgy People)


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“Hi! I'm a devout listener of your podcast, and really appreciate everything you do to make that possible! I've gained a lot of emotional intelligence and lost a lot of guilt over small things!

I'm a 24-year working mama in school with 2 little ones, and on Thursday I'm getting a breast augmentation and lift!!! I'm extremely excited but have not told anyone I work with or really anyone except my 3 closest people.

I decided to go through with this and not let fear of other's judgment affect my decisions! However, I'm still nervous people (especially my in-laws) are going to think I'm "loaded" even though I have always been excellent at budgeting and finances, and work for everything I have. I'm really hoping you can give me some advice on 2 things.

  1. Is it a good idea or is it even possible to keep this private?
  2. 2. How do I deal with people's responses if they do find out? I've already come up with a few "mantras" for myself: "You are not a bad mother for getting this done", "You are not robbing money that could have been better spent on your children", "My husband supports this decision, and I am not wasting our money". But I just do not want to deal with the consequences of everyone knowing and having negative reactions.

    Thanks again for producing amazing content, that literally changes peoples’ lives!”

    I had sooooo much to say about this (of course!) Listen in to hear my reply.

    Links Mentioned:

    • Shameless Mom Academy Ep 161: Boob Job

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