How can you overcome perfectionism and people pleasing at work?

In the latest episode of the Happier at Work podcast, I sat down with the extraordinary Ellen Taaffe to delve deep into the intricacies of women's leadership and personal growth. Ellen, with her vast experience spanning a 25-year corporate career, board memberships, and her current teaching role at Kellogg School of Management, brings a wealth of knowledge and actionable insights to the table.

Ellen introduces the pivotal mindset shift from "Who am I to do this?" to "Why not me?". She outlines five strategies to overcome the barriers that hold women back. These include preparing to perfection and eagerly pleasing.

During the episode, Ellen also discusses the challenges posed by perfectionism and the tendency to eagerly please others. She shares insights on how these can lead to being viewed merely as a "worker bee" and holding back from leadership opportunities.

Ellen’s work at the Kellogg School of Management emphasises the need for community and support among women. Ellen's research and teaching help bridge gaps specific to women in the workplace, addressing challenges like negotiating raises and overcoming biases.

Ellen’s book, "The Mirror Door: Breakthrough the Hidden Barrier That Locks Successful Women in Place," celebrates its one-year anniversary and has received multiple awards. It explores how self-reflection and internal doubts can prevent women from advancing and emphasises the importance of courage over confidence.

The main points:

• How perfectionism and people pleasing can lead to being viewed merely as a "worker bee" and holding back from leadership opportunities.
• It's essential to balance preparation with timely action.
• While building strong relationships is vital, it should not come at the expense of your personal needs and boundaries.
• The importance of building networks, seeking feedback, and advocating for oneself as strongly as for others. 

Do you have any feedback or thoughts on this discussion? If so, please connect with Aoife via the links below and let her know. Aoife would love to hear from you!

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Previous Episodes:

Episode 184: A Framework for Building Happier Work Cultures with Aoife O’Brien

Take Radical Responsibility of your Career with Carla Miller

Episode 219: How to Encourage Women Leaders to Speak up with Carla Miller