Therapy Brothers

#271: What If Showing Up Authentic Destroys My Relationship?


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Caller Pete's Question: "I feel like many of the recent podcast have been directed at me. I am in recovery from sexual addiction. I have recently been released from probation and now have 10 years of sex offender registration. My wife had stayed with me through most of it, but left me after I let her down on my commitment to give up a hobby. I struggle with her boundary around that hobby as I don't see any direct relation to my addiction and the trauma I'm sure that she's been through. She took our kids and moved states away and we really do not talk anymore. I have struggled with my recovery since she left. I have a lot of resentment towards her for this, but I also feel a ton of shame around my actions, and our separation. She has set a boundary asking me to give up this hobby (collectible "toy" cars), and I am having difficulty committing to this. With our separation we have both anchored ourselves further in our ideas. What can I do at this point to work on repairing our relationship...…?"


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            00:00 - Intro

            00:20 - Texas Trip Recap

            03:28 - Hangover and Emotional Moments

            07:15 - Guest Intro (Pete's Background)

            12:45 - Marriage and Addiction Struggles

            20:10 - Intensified Recovery Efforts

            26:15 - Repeated Relationship Patterns

            29:40 - Exploring Hobby Issue

            32:50 - Struggles with Authenticity

            36:05 - Brandon's Perspective

            40:18 - Tyler's Insights

            45:00 - Pete's Daily Routine

            48:30 - Conclusion and Thanks

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