What if the thing holding you back isn’t clarity, confidence, or capability, but whether you trust yourself enough to decide?

In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany sits down with longtime mentor and monthly conversation partner Brian Kavicky of Lushin to explore the quiet moment where bold vision often stalls: the moment of decision. It’s the space between knowing what you want and choosing it. When certainty fades, the stakes feel real, and your choice may affect others. Tiffany reflects on stepping away from a role she had mastered and what it’s been like to rebuild belief while leading something new without guaranteed outcomes.

Together, Tiffany and Brian examine why capable, high-performing leaders hesitate even when the vision is clear. They discuss how outside feedback and “reasonable” caution can erode self-trust, and why waiting for proof keeps leaders stuck in incremental thinking. Brian offers a different path: decide first, trust your history, and stay committed even when discomfort and doubt show up.

You’ll walk away with a framework to:

• Recognize when you’re outsourcing belief instead of owning it
• Separate helpful data from fear-based feedback
• Decide before the path is fully visible
• Stay committed when growth creates friction for you and others

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Mentioned in this episode:

• 290: How to Set Goals That Scare You (and Actually Hit Them)

Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(01:19) Self-trust as the real leadership skill

(02:18) Three questions to surface hesitation

(05:13) “What if I’m wrong?” and ignoring your history

(07:18) Outsourcing belief to other people

(10:55) When teams slow down big vision

(15:21) Stop negotiating your goals

(20:52) Discomfort means it matters

(22:36) Negative feedback can be a good sign

Check out the apps and sponsor of this episode: 

• This episode is sponsored by Lushin. As part of our ongoing content partnership, Brian Kavicky joins the podcast monthly to share insights on leadership and sales. No compensation is received for referrals.
• Created in partnership with Share Your Genius

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