I used to spend a lot of time thinking about drinking and I used to play the ‘maybe game’. Have you ever played the ‘maybe game’? My ‘maybe game’ was filled with scenarios that sounded good on paper, or seemed rational after a few drinks, but were really nothing more than excuses to stay in the exact same place. The place where I was stuck.

You see, I thought I was happier drinking. I thought I would be miserable not drinking and so my thoughts were filled with maybe’s:

...maybe I can learn to drink less ...maybe I can just drink wine and skip the hard stuff ...maybe I don’t really have a problem ...maybe I don’t even need to quit ...maybe I can convince my husband to stop with me ...maybe I will be miserable if I stop drinking ...maybe I will lose all my friends ...maybe I can take a month off and then I can prove I can take it or leave it Maybe…

 Maybe is defined as ‘the mere possibility’. It’s not definite, it’s not concrete and therefore our brain can create infinite possibilities out of ‘maybe’. I think of this as The Miserable Maybe.

The miserable part comes from the unmade decision. Maybe introduces the ‘mere possibility’ which means we are then faced with a decision. If we put off the decision, or pretend there is no decision that needs to be made, we live with the cost of this unmade decision. 

So, what can you do if you are stuck in your own ‘miserable maybe’?

Listen in for the 3 steps to get out of The Miserable Maybe.

 

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