What if the real problem isn’t that you don’t know what to do, but it’s that you’re too depleted to trust what you already know?

In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany sits down with longtime mentor and monthly conversation partner Brian Kavicky of Lushin to unpack decision fatigue and the sneaky way it chips away at self-trust for high-performing women carrying a heavy load. Tiffany shares two vulnerable stories from a season where life felt like too much: realizing her marriage wasn’t what she’d been pretending it was, and a holiday moment where overwhelm pushed her into making an irrational “middle-of-the-night Christmas lights” decision.

Together, Tiffany and Brian name what’s really happening in these seasons: the tyranny of the urgent, the “racket” of overwhelm that can reward overfunctioning, and the avoidance loop that keeps big decisions buried under small tasks. Brian reframes self-trust as what happens after a decision: the ability to stand by your choice without rewriting it the moment discomfort or pushback shows up. They also talk through how feedback loops can train leaders to doubt themselves, and why this struggle is often a sign you’re a high-capacity performer, not someone who’s failing.

You’ll walk away with a framework to:

• Recognize the early indicators that you’re slipping into overwhelm
• Separate urgent noise from what actually matters
• Borrow objectivity when your brain can’t sequence next steps
• Protect your decisions from pushback-driven second-guessing

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(00:59) How decision fatigue quietly chips at confidence

(02:05) What self-trust really is after you choose

(03:51) Two raw stories when self-trust felt fragile

(09:01) The tyranny of the urgent and irrational choices

(10:31) The pause that resets your brain back to priorities

(14:33) When overwhelm becomes a racket with a payoff

(20:04) Avoiding the hard thing with busywork and relief

(22:26) How pushback trains leaders to doubt themselves

(26:52) Borrowing objectivity and using your support network

Check out the apps and sponsor of this episode: 

• This episode is sponsored by Lushin. As part of our ongoing content partnership, Brian Kavicky joins the podcast monthly to share insights on leadership and sales. No compensation is received for referrals.
• Created in partnership with Share Your Genius

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