What if the real issue isn’t that you don’t know who you are, but that you’re too attached to what you’ve always been?

In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany sits down with leadership coach Brian Kavicky to talk about the challenges of redefining your identity when major roles in your life shift. Whether your children are leaving home, your career is evolving, or you're navigating a quiet season, Brian and Tiffany unpack how your identity can become tangled with your roles, and how this creates a sense of loss when those roles change.

Tiffany shares her own experiences of grappling with this shift, including the moment she realized she had defined herself by the roles she played, not by who she truly was. Together, they discuss the importance of self-trust and how it’s often tested when life becomes quieter, and the roles that once defined you no longer hold the same weight. They also explore the subtle power of separating your identity from your responsibilities, and how this can be the key to personal reinvention.

You’ll walk away with a framework to:

• Disconnect your self-worth from your roles
• Cultivate self-trust during transitions
• Begin defining who you are outside of your responsibilities
• Find peace and clarity in seasons of change

Wish you could talk it out with BK? Good news, you can! Book time with Brian Kavicky here. 

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(05:18) When being needed becomes your identity

(08:32) Deciding who you’re becoming next

(12:31) Experimenting with wants

(15:33) How to bring your kids along

(19:00) The cost of delaying the pivot

(21:22) Act today as if you mean to go on

(25:38) You don’t always have to be the one

(29:01) Finding your identity beyond roles

(32:03) Listen to whispers and things to say out loud

(34:51) You can’t trust what you haven’t defined

Check out the apps and sponsor of this episode: 

• This episode is sponsored by Lushin. As part of our ongoing content partnership, Brian Kavicky joins the podcast monthly to share insights on leadership and sales. No compensation is received for referrals.
• Created in partnership with Share Your Genius

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