Today, I’m joined by Beatriz Victoria Albina for a conversation about the emotions that often hide beneath common gut issues—and why codependency isn’t the real problem (and boundaries aren’t the full solution).

We also dive into her new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: A Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits, where Beatriz offers powerful reframes on parenting, community, and self-trust.

This episode feels like a deep exhale—a reminder that healing isn’t about fixing yourself, but coming home to yourself.

Join us for part one today, and come back next week for part two.

We discuss:

• Our backgrounds with functional medicine
• What it means to end emotional outsourcing
• Why codependency isn’t the problem and boundaries aren’t the answer
• How patriarchy undermines caring for each other and ourselves
• Why perfectionism isn’t an identity - it’s a habit
• Attachment styles and “good enough” parenting
• How to stop striving and actually relax
• Polyvagal theory for healthy skeptics
• Functional freeze and why we dissociate from joy
• Why people-pleasing isn’t a problem — it’s a protection strategy

More about our guest: Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.

She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina and their handsome all-black cat Wade.

Connect with Béa:

• Website
• Book Website
• Instagram: @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp
• Podcast: Feminist Wellness
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Free Meditations

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